Convincing people they need help can be difficult. Generally speaking, adult children of aging parents are the first to spot the need. However, parents often resist the help of their adult children. In turn, convincing their elders to accept help from a paid agency can be an even greater challenge. How does a family go about getting their elders to welcome outside help?

Start with the least invasive type of help first

For example, there are fairly essential tasks around the home that frequently become more challenging. Tactfully suggest that several people your loved ones know have hired a neighborhood services company to mow lawns, shovel snow, and do small tasks around the house, thus freeing them to do things they really enjoy.

Some gentleness and compassion can go a long way toward preserving your parents' or loved ones' dignity and getting them to allow you to help out gradually. Just watch yourself for signs that you are trying to take over.

Take time to adjust, then introduce the next step

If additional assistance is necessary, the next step would be in-home help. In-home care providers are often a lifeline for people who want to stay in their homes longer. If Mom needs someone to stay with her while Dad does the grocery shopping, an in-home health agency can provide the person. If Dad needs help in the shower, but Mom can't handle him, an in-home agency can come to the rescue.

Approach your elders in a casual way and don't dwell on the losses that come with age. When you talk with your elders, deliver the message that you want them to live healthier, burden-free lives.

Sincerely,