Center for Nonviolent Communication

International Intensive Training (IIT)
as created by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, founder of Nonviolent Communication

9-day residential retreat in Sinaia, ROMANIA
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20-29 October 2015


Join us to be part of a  compassionate community
learning how to speak from the heart,
practice deep, nonjudgmental listening, and
build self-empowerment from the inside-out.

Led by Certified Trainers:  
Ian Peatey (Romania), Sylvia Haskvitz (United States),
Deborah Bellamy (Austria) and Jeff Brown  (United States)



Most of us are hungry for skills to that can improve the quality of our relationships, increase our contribution through work and deepen our sense of personal empowerment.
 

 
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Unfortunately, however, most of us have been educated from birth to compete, judge, demand and diagnose... and to communicate in ways that create distrust and alienation, rather than connection.


At best, these habitual ways we think and speak hinder communication and create misunderstanding and frustration. And still worse, they can cause anger and pain, and may lead to violence, either physical or emotional.


Nonviolent Communication - also known as "Compassionate Communication" -- helps us avoid unnecessary suffering and contribute to peace in our world by helping people connect across differences in gender, age, race, sexual orientation, ethnic background, and religious and political beliefs.
 

Join us to discover and practice these life-changing skills! 

 

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International Intensive Training (IIT)
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20-29 October 2015 in Sinaia, Romania

A 9-day residential retreat originated by
Dr. Marshall Rosenberg
, founder of Nonviolent Communication

Hotel Caraiman, the venue for this retreat
Hotel Caraiman in Sinaia, Romania -- the venue for this retreat.

Register here for this life-changing event.
Find complete details  here.

(Earlybird discounts:  15% by 20 April 2015 / 10% by 20 July 2015)

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You will learn about:
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Personal and Professional Relationships

 * Increase connection and closeness
with the people you love.
 * Speak in a way that inspires compassion and understanding from others.
 * Initiate difficult conversations with
more ease and confidence.
 * Remain centered and peaceful when
receiving difficult messages.
 * Express anger fully, safely and
respectfully... yet powerfully.
 * Resolve long-standing conflicts and
heal painful relationships.
 * Parent children from the heart and move beyond power struggles into cooperation.
 * Translate criticism, judgments and
blame into life-serving messages.
 * Inspire others to change their
behavior willingly.
Inner Transformation
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 * Shift patterns of thinking that lead to depression, guilt and shame.
 * Transform anger into self-understanding, thereby increasing inner peace.
 * Enliven yourself by expressing and receiving gratitude.
 * Learn to embody unconditional love.
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Contribution and Social Change
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 * Teach others a way to increase inner peace, liberate themselves and strengthen relationships.
 * Create educational systems where students love learning and teachers love teaching.
 * Learn to engage in effective, lasting nonviolent social change in the tradition of Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

 

  

Ian Peatey and Monica Reu
Ian Peatey and Monica Reu are the local organizers of this retreat.

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This retreat will be presented in English.  It's a 9-day residential retreat in Nonviolent Communication designed as an "immersion experience" led by
a team of experienced CNVC certified trainers. 

The purpose is to offer people the opportunity to
live the process of NVC in community over an extended period of time, in order to develop
NVC knowledge, skills and consciousness. 
Learn more  here  and register
here.

 

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Meet the Trainers
All are Certified Trainers with the Center for Nonviolent Communication

Jeff Brown, M.A.  (Columbus, Ohio, USA)
 
    Jeff has been the Executive Director and lead trainer of the  Compassionate Communication Center of Ohio since 2009, and Certified Trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2005.
 
    People who experience Jeff's training, coaching, and group facilitation describe him as having a combination of authenticity, vulnerability and deadpan humor that engages audiences of all kinds with playfulness and depth.

   Jeff has led hundreds of trainings in 25 U.S. states and six countries including the Netherlands, Germany, South Korea, Japan and the U.K., and holds a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology from the  University of Santa Monica  in Los Angeles, CA , USA.   He  is trained in Community Mediation, Victim-Offender Reconciliation, and Restorative Circles.  From 2009-2012, Jeff was a trainer with the NVC Training Institute , a trainer collective that offered retreats called, "The Living Energy of Needs."   Learn more about Jeff   here.
 
Sylvia Haskvitz
Sylvia Haskvitz,
M.A., R.D. (Tucson, Arizona, USA)
   
   Sylvia has been a certified trainer since 1989, among the first NVC trainers to be certified by NVC founder Marshall Rosenberg.  Sylvia has planted NVC seeds in communities worldwide, including being part of the first team to offer 9-day trainings for Israelis, Palestinians and Internationals near Jericho in 2011.

   She is the author of Eat by Choice, Not by Habit, which has been translated into several languages including German, Italian and Chinese.  She is a contributing author of Healing Our Planet, Healing Ourselves with a chapter titled, "Enemy Images" based on her experience as the facilitator of a weekly dialogue group with Israelis and Palestinians during the 1990s at the time of the Oslo Accords. 

   Sylvia is a Certification Assessor for CNVC and sits on the certification coordinating council.
She has a degree in Nutrition from the University of Texas and a masters degree in Intercultural and Interpersonal Communication from San Francisco State University.  As one of her clients said, "Sylvia cares about what goes  into your mouth and what  comes out of it."  Learn more about Sylvia here .
 
 
Ian Peatey
Ian Peatey   (Bucharest, Romania)
 
    Ian was born in the U.K. and moved to Poland in 1994, playing a part in the rapid growth of NVC awareness there. He now lives in Bucharest, Romania with his daughter and wife  (Monica Reu, also a Certified Trainer with CNVC and the host of this retreat). 

   Together with Monica, he runs the  Romanian Association for NVC   which focuses on general NVC as well as the education and parenting fields.   Ian's background is in the corporate world, where he  worked in financial audit and Human Resources before embarking on a radical  change of direction after discovering NVC in 2001. 

   He was certified  as a CNVC trainer in 2008, and integrates NVC into his business  training, facilitation, and coaching, as well as offering NVC programs in personal development and for couples and parents.   In his work he seeks to combine the transformational quality of NVC with the pragmatic.  Learn more about Ian here.


Deborah Bellamy
Deborah Bellamy
 
(Vienna, Austria)
    
   Deborah is a freelance trainer in adult education using alternative methods.  She met Marshall Rosenberg in 1995 and became certified trainer in 2003, when she co-founded the Austrian Network for Nonviolent Communication, which now has over 50 trainers and 120 members throughout Austria. 

   Deborah specialises in Adult Education in business,
management, university, schools, social education and
private coachings.  In 2006 she joined Marshall at an IIT as team
trainer and now is looking forward to contributing in
Romania as IIT trainer in 2015. 

   Deborah has joined the European English speaking CNVC Assessor team in 2012 and is supporting candidates from Eastern Europe.  She has had many years of experience working internationally, especially in Eastern European countries.  What people say about Deborah is they enjoy her authenticity, playfulness, humour, creativity and depth in her work as trainer, not to mention her dedication to the NVC vision.

   Deborah is living in Austria with her partner since 1989 after sailing four years on a boat. She was born in Malta and spent her childhood in Britain.  Learn more about Deborah here.

 

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What is Nonviolent Communication?

    Nonviolent Communication (NVC), also known as "Compassionate Communication," is a process that facilitates the exchange of information necessary to prevent violence, increase civility, and discover win/win strategies that contribute to lasting peace among individuals, organizations and nations. 
 
    NVC contributes to peace by helping people connect across differences in gender, age, race, sexual orientation, ethnic background, and religious and political beliefs, by focusing on the needs that are universal to all human beings. 
   
    NVC is based on the belief that all human beings have the capacity for compassion and only resort to violence, or behavior that harms others, when they are not aware of more effective strategies for meeting their needs. 
 
    When disagreement arises, most people have been educated to think and communicate in terms of what is "wrong" with the other and use blaming, judgments, and demands to meet their needs. Tragically, these ways of relating to others decreases the likelihood that people will respond compassionately, and increases the likelihood of violent behavior.
 
   NVC guides us to use empathy to connect with the core of a person's needs that lie underneath their words and actions, which helps us to resolve conflicts collaboratively, create harmony in relationships, and build lasting peace. When we understand and acknowledge each other's needs, we develop a shared foundation for tolerance, cooperation and goodwill. 
 
    NVC sharpens our skills in three main areas: 
 
1) Honest Expression: Expressing our needs vulnerably without criticism or blame, in a way that inspires compassion and understanding, and making clear requests of others without demanding.
 
2) Empathic Listening: Listening to others with empathy in way that communicates compassion and deep understanding of people's values and needs.
 
3) Self-Understanding: Developing greater understanding of our own needs and motivations, so that we have more openness and flexibility about ways to pursue our needs in a way that does not harm ourselves or others.
 
   The process was developed by an American psychologist, Marshall Rosenberg (1934-2015) over 40+ years beginning in the 1960s.  At the time, Marshall provided mediation and communication skills training for federally-funded school integration projects in the Southern U.S.
 
Marshall Rosenberg
D r. Marshall Rosenberg, creator
of Nonviolent Communication.
 
    In 1985, Rosenberg founded the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) and led more than 1,000 trainings on five continents.  As of 2015, CNVC has approximately 400 Certified Trainers who share NVC in schools, corporations, health care systems, penal institutions and in politics in 35 countries.
 
   Around the world, pictures of transformation are emerging from every continent. People are connecting moment-to-moment with the human spirit within themselves and others. With ever-increasing ability, they are resolving conflicts peacefully and experiencing their common humanity.
 
Complete details of the retreat are here.  Register here
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(Earlybird discounts:  15% by 20 April 2015  /  10% by 20 July 2015)