November 2022

Tackling Heady Challenges with Heart-Based Connections

Dear Friends-


It’s been several months since my last update, and things have been heating up here!


As always, we have the opportunity to work with amazing and inspiring people. Helping community leaders create space for the "conversation before the conversation" is incredibly rewarding.


The (Heart) Conversation before the (Head) Conversation


We have been busy with our two big projects: climate change and the housing crisis. Palma’s article highlights what Civity brings to community efforts to address these issues: Strengthening relational (heart) grounding expands the capacity for effective policy (head).


Last month in Gillette, WY, we did a Civity training with local government leaders from around the state. It was sobering to hear about people who are suffering the direct effects of climate change, as well as the effects of economic insecurity in a changing fossil fuel market. At the same time, it was heartening to see them focus on problem-solving and community support, even in the face of tough challenges.


Similarly, in our work to support the “missing middle” housing initiative in California, we will be conducting a virtual workshop this week with housing leaders from around the state. In both key issues, leaders are becoming more and more aware of the need for integrating heart relationships into head discussions.


Reflecting this awareness, we have been invited to open the upcoming conference Reinventing Democracy: How Hometowns Are Strengthening America - hosted by the Our Common Purpose initiative of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences - with a Civity workshop. (See article below)


Come Join a Demo Workshop!



In talking to people across the country about the importance of relationships in community work, we have learned how important it is for people to experience civity for themselves. “Practicing civity” has always been a big part of the workshops we take to communities – and the part that people enjoy the most! We are now making that experience available to more people. Our 90-minute virtual demo workshops are held every few weeks and are free of charge. If you’re interested in learning more about how we work - and how it could be useful to your organization or your community - email us at info@civity.org.


Staffing Changes


We are delighted to welcome Lucy Hancock to our training team! Lucy, based in Omaha, NE, joined us over the summer and has been working on our climate change project. Learn more about Lucy!


And, as we say goodbye to Tamera White, who supported the first phase of our California housing work, we want to express our gratitude for her help. Thank you, Tamera!


And Thanks to YOU!


Finally, as we move toward the end of 2022, all of us at Civity offer all of you our heartfelt gratitude for everything that you do to spread civity in your own work and in your own community. You inspire us.


Cheers, Malka

Head to Heart

By Palma Joy Strand


Climate change is global, yet its effects are experienced locally.


The housing crisis in the US is national, and yet it is in local communities where people live and struggle to meet current and future needs.


It’s heart connections that build the trust that make necessary problem-solving head work possible.



The “conversation before the conversation” brings an intentional relationality that, like a few drops of oil, makes the gears of community decision-making turn much more smoothly and effectively.

Read More

Palma Strand Speaks About Civity's Impact at Stanford Strengthening Democracy Conference

In case you missed it, the video of Palma's talk at Stanford's Strengthening Democracy Conference is now posted!


Palma discussed Civity's results in the Strengthening Democracy Challenge (SDC), which proves that connecting people across differences can strengthen democracy and reduce polarization.


Civity’s 8-minute intervention – Civity Storytelling: Expanding the Pool of People Who Matter was:


  • #1 at increasing social trust
  • #2 at decreasing social distance & decreasing opposition to bipartisanship
  • #4 at reducing partisan animosity


Civity Storytelling also:



  • Decreased support for biased evaluation of political facts
  • Decreased cold feelings towards out-partisans
Give it a Try!

Civity Speaking at Our Common Purpose Event!


Join Civity’s Malka Kopell and Palma Strand at the Our Common Purpose conference – Reinventing Democracy: How Hometowns are Strengthening America!


Malka & Palma will be giving a special Civity workshop at the conference on Wednesday, December 7th at 1:40pm ET (10:40am PT). It’s online, so you can join from anywhere!


Our Common Purpose is a project of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences - launched in 2018 to explore how best to respond to the weaknesses and vulnerabilities in our political and civic life and to enable more Americans to participate as effective citizens in a diverse 21st-century democracy.


The full conference runs from 12/7-9.


Register Here!

What Civity Means to Me

Read Malka's Civity Story!

Each of us who works at Civity feels a deep connection to Civity's mission and goals, and we are drawn to this work through our own civity story and experiences.


Now, Communications Assistant Vanesa Acevedo-Diaz has captured each of our stories for a special Instagram series - "Say It With Actions: What Civity Is to Us."


We also want to share these stories here, and we begin with our own co-founder Malka Kopell and what civity means to her.


(Note: Need to be logged into Instagram to see post)

Civity & the News:

Talking to Strangers Can Make Us Wiser and Happier - and Our Communities Better!


In a recent BBC article, writer Joe Keohane discusses his new book, The Power of Strangers: The Benefits of Connecting in a Suspicious World.


Keohane concludes that civity-based interactions are beneficial for us and our communities. "Interacting with strangers, even in passing, can help us build or rebuild social networks, reconnect us with our communities, and shore up trust in the people around us."


"Talking to strangers – under the right conditions – is good for us, good for our neighborhoods, our towns and cities, our nations, and our world," Keohane writes. "Talking to strangers can teach you things, deepen you, make you a better citizen, a better thinker, and a better person. It's a good way to live. But it's more than that. In a rapidly changing, infinitely complex, furiously polarised world, it's a way to survive."


Even though it may not always feel easy - and even though we may be focused on our busy lives - research shows that stopping to make time for practicing civity can improve our own well being and that of our communities.

How You Can Support Civity's Work

Thank you for supporting and practicing civity! To support Civity’s work with a tax-exempt donation, CLICK HERE to donate online or get instructions for sending a check.


Your donation helps fund our communications and enables us to give free workshops to small nonprofits.


Our work is more important than ever, and we can’t do it without you. Help us reach more people and provide more support to leaders across the country seeking to build civity.


Let’s grow our Civity community by reaching out to “others” and bridging across divides. Together, we can create a culture where we ALL belong.

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