As a child, Thérèse experienced both great love and great suffering. Having lost four babies prior to her birth, Thérèse's family truly cherished her. Thérèse's father called her "my little Queen." But due to her mother's breast cancer, Thérèse had to live with a wet nurse from the fragile age of three months to fifteen months. This early separation, along with the death of her mother when Thérèse was four, may have contributed to Thérèse being overly sensitive and needing to please others in order to feel secure and connected. She also experienced mild depression as she held her grief and her need for consolation inside. Thérèse often felt guilty for being dramatic or making a fuss about seemingly small things. It was as if she no longer had her feelings; her feelings had her. Thérèse described the years between her mother's death and age fourteen as "the most painful" period of her life. But God uses everything, and these wounds became sacred gifts that readied her for what she surprisingly called her "complete conversion." [1]

Thérèse's conversion took place just before her fourteenth birthday when she, her father, and two of her sisters had returned from Midnight Mass early Christmas morning. Her tired father made a comment to her sister Celine which Thérèse overheard: "Well, fortunately, this will be the last year!" He was referring to the little charade they always played where Thérèse pretended to believe in Papa Noel and opened gifts with joy to please her father. Now she felt she'd been making him unhappy instead.

Thérèse's sensitive heart was shattered. But then the miracle she'd been praying for happened. Instead of bursting into tears and running up the stairs to her room, as she would normally have done, she felt Jesus give her immediate strength and deep foundation. She was able to remain calm and participate joyfully in the family tradition, as if her father's criticism had not happened. Joseph Schmidt describes this new freedom: "By grace stripped of falseness, Thérèse now saw herself more clearly mirrored in the eyes of God, a child of God. . . . [She realized] the violence she was doing to herself by . . . being untrue to herself. . . . On that Christmas Day, she had been able to stand her ground emotionally, take the next step, and not be intimidated by her feelings." [2] She claimed it was a complete victory over her egocentric emotions for the rest of her life! Most of us never enjoy such a victory, or even deem it as necessary.

It seems like such a little thing, but that is actually what makes it so important in the end. Thérèse was all about "doing small things with great love." An experience of inner freedom and grace allows you to be more compassionate both with yourself and with others. This is at the heart of much Eastern Meditation practice. Looking at yourself from a calm distance, you begin to see your own patterns and understand that so much of your behavior is habitual, knee-jerk reactions. Your immediate feelings are almost always due to childhood conditioning, but they are so deep in your unconscious that you have no idea why you're doing what you're doing. We are indeed unconscious. [3] Even St. Paul says that about himself (Romans 7:14-24).