Dear Hospice Supporters,

It’s easy to get caught up in the day to day activities of Hospice, but as we approach the end of the year, it’s helpful to reflect on how far we’ve come. We have worked through the first year of our strategic plan, which guides everything we do as an organization. We have made changes to streamline operations. We have restarted programs that had been paused or reduced over the last couple of years. We have strengthened ties with local governments and community organizations. We have expanded our reach within the community and hired more staff to facilitate our work. We have engaged the community to determine what is important, and that will help guide our work going forward.

On behalf of the Board, I wish you all the best for the holiday season and for 2023.
 
Thank you again for your ongoing support of Four Tides Hospice Society. As always, please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or would like further information on any hospice-related topic.

Cathy Fisher, President
Celebrate a Life This Holiday Season

Join us for this year’s Celebrate a Life Tree, at the Town Centre Mall and online via Facebook!

Submit the names of your loved ones using our online form and we will put each name on its own personalized ornament on our Facebook page. Our volunteers will also place a handwritten ornament on our tree in the Mall for every name submitted.

Submissions will be accepted December 1 to December 31, 2022.

To access the online form and submit the names of your loved ones, visit https://tinyurl.com/PRHSTree2022.

To view submissions starting tomorrow, December 1, visit our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/prhospice
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Update from Our Program Coordinator

Grief Support Group
 
The Grief Support Group is a non-judgemental space for adults who are grieving the death of a loved one to come together for support and fellowship. This group offers information and discussion with the support of trained volunteers. It will be offered free of charge beginning in mid-January and run for 8 weeks (dates & times tbd).
 
Please call 604-223-7309 or email programs@prhospice.org if you would like to be notified when the registration opens.
 
Stay Tuned – Workshop series on complicated grief
 
Volunteers have expressed a need for training on supporting individuals experiencing complicated grief. We are pleased to announce that the development of this workshop is underway and we will be announcing details shortly.
 
Please call 604-223-7309 or email programs@prhospice.org to be notified when the registration opens. 
Update from Our Client & Volunteer Coordinator

We are looking for new volunteers for all of our programs and services. Volunteer schedules are flexible. Share your skills and become involved in the community.

Training starts January 17, 2023 and runs for 8 weeks on Tuesday nights and 2 full Saturdays.

If you are interested in becoming a volunteer, please complete the application form found here https://www.prhospice.org/become-involved/become-a-volunteer/ and send it to coordinator@prhospice.org.

What do our volunteers love about volunteering with hospice?

“The Hospice Volunteer Training Course was one of the best things I did in 2022. Learning more about the process of dying and the stages and complexities of grief and bereavement has expanded my life. I look at my life and the lives of others with heightened appreciation. I am learning to embrace death as a part of life. I feel more compassionate towards others and I am developing a greater capacity to serve and support others. I am grateful to my fellow hospice volunteers, my hospice clients, as well as friends and family who have died or supported their loved ones, for helping me along this learning journey”. -Michele 


10 Things to Say to a Grieving Friend During the Holidays


During this first holiday season without my dad around, it’s not the Christmas hubbub that gets me down; it’s the awkward silence. Friends who have lost loved ones tell me people just don’t know what to say; they’re fearful of making me cry, saying the “wrong” thing or getting emotional themselves. So, I thought long and hard about the words that have comforted my family and what I’ve learned from friends who have experienced great loss.

1. I am thinking of you. 
Sounds so simple, but it means so much to know someone out there is aware you are in pain, and thinking good thoughts about you.

2. What you’re going through totally sucks.
Plain and simple, the journey through grief is shitty. It feels good to have others validate this fact and acknowledge you’re hurting – in a real and gritty way.

3. I’m sending you love during this difficult time.
When it seems heartfelt, this is a huge comfort. Don’t worry that you might not know a person well enough to say it. I have received notes and tweets from people I barely know sending their love. Every time, it’s felt like a warm blanket of human kindness.

4. May peace present itself more and more with every day. 
I’ve heard people say “may you find peace,” but this small shift in language touched my heart when a friend said it. It allows me to just sit back and trust that, in time, peace will find me.

5. I really want to support you this season. 
People in grief usually have no clue how you can help them, so you’ll need to offer some suggestions. A few holiday possibilities: decorate the Christmas tree, bake cookies together, bring coffee over, help to wrap presents or address holiday cards, go shopping together, clean the house, babysit the kids, accompany your friend to a holiday gathering, shovel the driveway. Do not be offended if your friend turns down every offer you make; simply knowing you’re willing and able to help might be enough for the time being.

6. I don’t expect a call back. 
For over a week after my dad died, a dear friend called me every day and just left a message to say she loved me and was thinking of me. At the end of each message, she’d remind me that she didn’t expect a call back. She knew that when I had the energy to call, I would. When I eventually called her back, I felt no guilt. Such a gift!

8. You can cry with me anytime. 
Grief comes in waves and sometimes catches you off guard. You only want to spend time with people who accept you and support you as you are – even if you’re happy one minute and sobbing the next.

9. Can I share a favorite memory of __________?  
Though it may be emotional, sharing stories of the person who passed can be really therapeutic for those left behind. Share how he or she impacted your life or bring up stories you remember your friend sharing about their relationship.

10. There is no “right” way to grieve. 
Remind your bereaved friend {and yourself} that everyone deals with grief differently. There are no rules or expectations. During the holidays, some people find it impossible to carry on with family traditions, while others find comfort in them.

I hope this list serves you well either now or in the future, as you support a dear heart who’s hurting.
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