November 22, 2023

Funding Our Love Story

By now you will have received the invitation to pledge to support the ministries of the parish, which is one way of being an active participant in the story of God at work in and through us as we seek to share God's love with the community and the world. If you haven't received your invitation, please let Maria know so that we can be sure we have your mailing address.

As of this morning, we have ten pledges totaling $53,920! This is a great start to our goal of $128,000. Thanks to those who have pledged. And thanks in advance to those of you who read this message and make your pledge this week. You can do so here or by placing your pledge card in the offering plate on Sunday or by mailing it to the office.

Happening at St. Stephen's This Week...


This year, we continue our observation of an extended Advent of seven weeks, rather than four. This is a return to the Advent observance of the Church from its beginnings until just a few hundred years ago. Extending Advent in this way moves it from the "season of preparation" for Christmas to an observance of the full promise and realization of God's dream, helping us to engage more fully in Christ's mission of peace, justice, and the integrity of creation. We enter the new year mindful of God's work in creation through all time as we look ahead with hopeful anticipation to a more peaceful and just world and the fulfillment of God's promise to all people.


Join us at 10:00am on November 26th

for The Third Sunday of Advent.

ALL are welcome.

At Communion, you may receive the wine by sipping from the cup, reverently touching the base of the chalice, or you may choose Communion in one kind

only (the bread).

Coffee Hour in the Parish Hall after the service.

Our coffee hour hosts are:

Barbara and Roger Riedel

Live-streamed to YouTube and Facebook. Bulletins are available on the St. Stephen's website. All links can be found at the bottom of the newsletter.

The Sunday service will also be broadcast on HTTV (Comcast TV 36 and

Verizon TV 33) on Tuesday at 6am and 3pm.


Sunday, November 26th

8:30 - 9:30 AM

in the common room

Bring your beverage of choice and join

Rev. Paula and Deacon Karen for a conversation in the common room. Come with your questions and/or concerns. This is a special time for us to talk and share in our faith together.

Looking Ahead


NOV 23 & 24

Offices Closed for Thanksgiving

NOV 26

3rd Sun of Advent

8am - Coffee & Conversation w/ Rev. Paula and Deacon Karen

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

NOV 27

7:30pm - MA Meeting



4th Sun of Advent

8am - Coffee & Conversation w/ Rev. Paula and Deacon Karen

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Adult Formation

1pm - AA Meeting


7:30pm - MA Meeting

DEC 10

5th Sun of Advent

8am - Coffee & Conversation w/ Rev. Paula and Deacon Karen

10am - Intergenerational Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group | Adult Formation

1pm - AA Meeting

DEC 11

7:30pm - MA Meeting

DEC 17

6th Sun of Advent

8am - Coffee & Conversation w/ Rev. Paula and Deacon Karen

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Vestry Meeting

1pm - AA Meeting

DEC 18

7:30pm - MA Meeting

DEC 20

7:30pm - Finance Committee Meeting

DEC 21

7pm - Preschool Committee Meeting

7:30pm - Longest Night Service

DEC 24

Christmas Eve

8am - Coffee & Conversation w/ Rev. Paula and Deacon Karen

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

5pm - Family Service

10pm - Candlelight Service

DEC 25

Christmas Day

10am - Christmas Day Service

7:30pm - MA Meeting

DEC 31

8am - Coffee & Conversation w/ Deacon Karen

10am - Sunday Worship - Lessons & Carols

1pm - AA Meeting

Other Happenings...

Join Sister Monica in the Common Room at 11:30am as she leads our Adult Formation sessions this December.

Sr. Monica will facilitate conversation about being a part of God's story through two different topics:

 December 3

"Prepare the Way of the Lord: Why did the Community of St. John Baptist choose John the Baptist as our Patron Saint?"

How did the founders of CSJB, people dedicated to the care of poor and marginalized women in England, discerned their call in connection with John the Baptist?

December 10

"The Great O Antiphons of Advent"

How do the names for and images of Jesus shape how we understand the story of the incarnation?


for our Drumming Camp families


Due: December 10, 2023


As part of our Christmas celebration, we are delighted to be supporting our Drumming Camp children!


We are kindly requesting donations of VISA or TARGET gift cards

(in denominations of $10, $20 or $25) this year for approximately 20 children.


Please forward your gift card donations to the St. Stephen's Church office

(119 Main Street, Millburn, NJ 07041) by Sunday, December 10th.


Please email Maryalice at if you have questions.


Many thanks! Your generosity is greatly appreciated and will help

bring joy to these children during the Christmas season.


Due: December 20, 2023

Help make St. Stephen's especially festive this Christmas!

Your donations will help offset the cost of Christmas flowers for our church.

Donations can made via Tithely fund: "Special Gifts - Flowers, or delivered to the Parish Office at

119 Main Street, Millburn, NJ 07041 by Wednesday, December 20th.

If you have any questions, please email Maria or call the office.


Friday, Dec. 8th at 7:30PM

Sunday, Dec. 10th at 3PM Presbyterian Church in Morristown

Harmonium opens its 45th anniversary season with Ecstatic Expectancy, featuring music that expresses eager anticipation, including a comparison of Durante’s Magnificat of 1746 with two premieres of Magnificat by contemporary American women composers Dale Trumbore and Jessica French.

Tickets may be purchased in advance or at the door.

Presbyterian Church in Morristown, 57 E. Park Place, Morristown.



St. Stephen's provides the coffee, tea, juice, water, sugar/sweeteners, cups, plates, utensils, and napkins.

The host(s) provide milk and food

(sweet -or- savory | bought -or- made).

Setup/cleanup is handled by our cleaning person.

The sign-up sheet is posted on the bulletin board in the narthex.


The Counting Ministry is required

for compliance with best business practices and our audit process.

Please consider joining this team, which works in pairs immediately after the service. It’s actually one of the least time-consuming and most straightforward ways you can participate in the vital ministries of this parish.

Email Maria for the signup link.

Advent in The Evelyn Underhill Region


While at Clergy Conference, the Evelyn Underhill clergy talked about how to continue our new-ish and much loved custom of observing Advent together. We decided to use a beautiful Advent devotional written by our friend and diocesan colleague, The Rev. Anne Kitch. The book is called Expectant, and is one that I have used in my own prayer for the past two years. Even the cover feels likes an invitation to prepare for Christmas again as if for the first time.

Rev. Anne will be joining us on Wednesday, December 13th from 7:00 - 8:30. The region will be reading it beginning December 3rd. The book is available on Amazon for about $10 for either paperback or Kindle. If you'd like a copy but cannot buy one yourself, please let Rev. Paula know.


St. Paul’s, Chatham

Holiday Concert

Friday, December 15 at 7pm

Four Hands at the Piano performing the Nutcracker Suite featuring Nan Childress and John Pivarnik

Grace, Madison

Advent Bible Study: A Gospel without Christmas? The Good News of Mark

Wednesdays (Nov. 29–Dec. 27) at 10:30am (In-Person) /7:30pm (Zoom)

Mass with Saint Nicholas

Sunday, December 3 at 4pm

Music by Metropolitan Saxophone Quartet; and a Visit from Saint Nicholas

Advent Evensong & Reception Sunday, December 17 at 4pm

Music by Stanford, Ayleward, Rheinberger, and Gjeilo with

Advent carols

Blue Christmas

Wednesday, December 20 at 7pm

A Candlelight Taizé Service

St. George’s, Maplewood

Christmas Caroling

Sunday, December 3 at 4:30pm

Caroling followed by warm drinks and light refreshments

New Jersey Gay Men’s Chorus Sunday, December 10 at 4pm

Presenting “A Holiday Road of Carols” Concert

Advent Lessons and Carols

Sunday, December 17 at 5pm

Blue Christmas Service

Wednesday, December 20 at 7pm

A space for the Brokenhearted and Grieving

Advent IV Candlelight Service

Saturday, December 23 at 5pm

St. Stephen’s, Millburn

Longest Night Service

Thursday, December 21 at 7:30pm

A contemplative service of comfort and hope with candlelight and music

Christ Church, Short Hills

Advent Morning Prayers

Monday through Thursday

(Dec. 4 - Dec 21) at 8:30am

A time of dwelling with God in community in-person and online via Zoom

Advent Wreath Making & Caroling

Sunday, December 3 at 5pm

Event includes one wreath per family, cost $25 per family

Winter Holiday Concert:

“The Road Home”

Friday, December 8 at 7:30pm

The Rutgers University–Newark Chorus and conductor Dr. Brian Harlow present their annual Winter Concert

Ordination to the Sacred Order of Priests: The Rev. Paul Keene Saturday, December 16 at 10am

Calvary, Summit

Service of Lessons & Carols

Sunday, December 3 at 5pm

Evening Prayer – Tuesdays, December 5, 12, & 19 at 5pm Featuring meditations on “Expectant,” the Underhill region advent book

Book Discussion – Wednesdays, Dec. 6, 13, & 20, 12pm A book discussion of “Expectant”

Celebration of New Ministry: The Rev. Christopher Cole Thursday, December 14 at 7pm


Saturday, January 6 at 7pm

Hosted by St. George’s, Maplewood

From Bishop Hughes & The Episcopal Church



What to do when you don't know what to do - 11/15/23

Bishop Hughes describes being asked, "Bishop, what are you going to do about the war" and thinking, "As if they would listen to me, one lone person sitting in Newark, New Jersey" - which led to what one person can do in situations where there is no easy fix.

The Voice Online Link - 11/15/23


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Cross Roads Camp & Diocesan Youth Ministries


NEW: Summer Camp Registration Opens on Dec 1st!

Looking for a meaningful summer adventure for your kids? A place where children and youth are encouraged to learn and share their own faith stories with other kids? Cross Roads is the answer!

Cross Road's program is all about fun and faith, giving children and youth the chance to bond, explore the great outdoors, and strengthen their connection with God. There's something for everyone, with a variety of programs tailored to different ages and interests from swimming to hiking, arts and crafts, and more. Plus, there are many opportunities for worship, prayer, and reflection, so campers can nurture their faith in a supportive and caring setting.

Cross Roads is located on 250 glorious acres atop the stunning mountain landscape of northwestern New Jersey.

To learn more about Cross Roads' Summer Camp offerings, click here.


In this time of Crisis, there are many resources that can help if you or someone you know needs assistance. Please contact NJ Mental Health Cares for free helpline telephone counseling or assistance. Call 866-202-4357.

TTY: 1-877-294-4356.


Other resources are:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


Crisis Text Line, 741741

NJ Hope Line (suicide prevention) 



Weekly AA meetings:

Sunday at 1:00pm

Contact: Rob H. (516) 860-9062

AA meetings are presented in Big Book format.

For more information about Alcohol Anonymous, click here.

Weekly MA meeting:

Monday at 7:30pm

Contact: Max T. (212) 203-2542

Contact: Deana L. (908) 499-8997

MA meetings are presented in a rotating format:

Step - Speaker - Story from Life with Hope - Topic

For more information about Marijuana Anonymous, click here.

Prayer List
Please keep the following St. Stephen's family
members and friends in your prayers...

Harold Williams

Ken Duge

Donna Bogardus

Ruth and Ron Gadbois

Lucy and Habib Faris

Jody Caldwell

Shelley Toland

Theresa Scharff

Therese & Sherry

Sari Dalager

Lisa Ellis and Family

Virginia Whatley

 Gina del Russo

 Dan Brown

 Karen McCarthy

Felder Dorn

If you would like to add someone to our prayer list, please email us at, or call (973) 376-0688 Ext. 32.

Anyone for whom we are praying will be on our prayer list for six weeks. If prayers are still needed beyond that time period, please let us know. Thank you.

Sunday Lectionary

The Third Sunday of Advent

November 26, 2023

We are using the new lectionary,

Wilda Gafney's A Women's Lectionary for the Whole Church, Year A.

Our bulletins are available here.

Giving with
Giving with is easy with options for recurring donations or one-time use for when you are away or not able to be in church (like all of us now due to COVID restrictions).

You can access via their website or their app on your smart phone. Be sure to search for the correct account - "St. Stephen's Church Millburn." Once you have accessed the account page with our address, you will be instructed to follow the prompts.
Office Notes

Only teachers and staff are allowed to be in the building during school hours. If you need to visit the parish office/building for any reason, please contact us for an appointment. Thank you.


Tuesday - Friday

9:00am to 5:00pm

Important Links
Zoom Links

Sunday Worship

Meeting ID: 864 1664 1640

Passcode: SSM119

To call in, dial by your location:

+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)

Adult Formation

Meeting ID: 878 3014 4448

Passcode: SSM119

To call in, dial by your location:

+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)

Links for Sunday Worship Live-Stream & Social Media
Website Links
Other Social Media Links


St. Stephen's Episcopal Church
119 Main Street, Millburn, NJ 07041

Parish Administrator, Maria T. Card
973.376.0688, Ext. 32

Rector, The Rev. Paula J. Toland
973.376.0688, Ext. 21

Fax: 973.376.4002


Director: Nancy Siracusa
Phone: 973.376.3534, Ext. 20
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