3 Red Flags That Your Kids are Suffering During Your Divorce
It can be very easy to get caught up in things during the divorce process. Your own anger, emotions, and financial stress weigh heavily on you as you handle the divorce. However, its very important to make sure that you keep your eyes peeled for signs that your child(ren) are being negatively affected by the divorce.
Our colleges at Divorce Magazine outlined the top 3 signs that show your child(ren) may be struggling:
1. Frequent Outbursts.
Sometimes children manifest their frustrations through outbursts of anger or irregular behavior. Because the children often feel helpless and confused during the divorce it's very normal for them to act out. Some acting out can be completely harmless, but there are children who can exhibit destructive behavior.
Try and determine whether your kids are just expressing resentment or are generally struggling with the emotional turmoil of the divorce. Either way, you're going to have to communicate with your kids and address their concerns and feelings, even if they show resistance. Comfort them and let them know that you're in it together. Let them understand that they can come to you whenever they feel overwhelmed, but avoid discussing the details of your case with the children.
2. Trouble Sleeping.
Older children can experience some insomnia when their parents are undergoing a divorce. Anxiety resulting from the uncertainties of the divorce can make it difficult for them to sleep at night.
When younger children are going back and forth between homes, they may take some time getting used to changed settings and routines. It's important that your children get enough sleep, so make sure that it doesn't affect other parts of their lives, specifically school.
3. Withdrawn from Loved Ones.
When you find that your child is distancing him/herself from you and others whose company they usually enjoy, it is usually because they are holding in anger or emotions. Speak to your child and help them find an outlet to help them let it all out.
Divorce is traumatic for the couple and their children. As parents, it's our job to put in effort to make your kids as comfortable as possible during the divorce. Even if it is tough for you and your partner to get along, you need to be civil in front of your kids.
Remember that your relationship with your partner ended but your child's relationship with their parent hasn't.
