February 2015
Issue 50

Do not cast me from your presence 

 or take your Holy Spirit from me.

Restore to me the joy of your salvation 

 and grant me a willing spirit, to sustain me.

Then I will teach transgressors your ways, 

 so that sinners will turn back to you.

Deliver me from the guilt of bloodshed, O God,

 you who are God my Savior, 

 and my tongue will sing of your righteousness.

Open my lips, Lord, 

 and my mouth will declare your praise.

you do not delight in sacrifice, or I would bring it; 

 you do not take pleasure in burnt offerings.

(Psalms 51:11-16)
A Lenten Meditation for Daughters

    

 

 

Lent is once again upon us and this means that we get to slow down and reconnect with the holiness of God and as an Order. I invite each of you to make a commitment to meditate on a regular basis. How long you meditate is unimportant.  What is important is that you meditate and do it regularly on schedule. This Lent we will take a journey into being intentionally mindful each day about certain aspects of The Order of the Daughters of the King �. You will need the following tools: 

  • A timer of some kind such as a mindfulness app, or a timed piece of music. 
  • A journal (optional).
  • A prayer book and a Bible.
  • The National Handbook (optional).

The days of the week will be laid out in the following way:

  • Sunday:  We meditate on Sisterhood and what it means to follow the vows of Prayer, Service, and Evangelism. We take time to pray for the Order and National Council.
  • Monday: We meditate on what it means to be a Junior Daughter and how best we might be able to help Junior Daughters thrive. We Pray for Junior Daughters and those discerning calls to join this part of the Order. We pray for Junior Daughter Directresses at all levels and for the growth of the Alpha Fund.
  • Tuesday: We meditate on Daughters at Large and how we can reach out to them. We pray especially for all Daughters who feel isolated by distance and age. We intentionally pray for small-chapter growth and for those chapters that have been disbanded. We pray for the growth of the Master's Fund.
  • Wednesday: We meditate on what it means to be an International Daughter, and we pray for all the countries where International Daughters live and for more growth world-wide.
  • Thursday: We meditate on the vows we made and how we can best live into them and follow the rule. We pray for all who are discerning calls to be Daughters and those who are transitioning from Junior to senior Daughter. We intentionally pray for the growth of the Endowment Fund.
  • Friday: We meditate and pray for all the clergy, both those who are Daughters and those who are not.  We take time to intentionally pray for the Self-Denial Fund.
  • Saturday: We meditate and prepare for our worship on the upcoming Sabbath day and use the Motto of the Order as our focus. 

Each day is to be considered a holy day.   

 

To begin this meditation: We put on our timers, mindfulness apps, or selected music for your allotted time. Next we take a few deep breaths, close our eyes, and take time to be silent and still.  Then begin to meditate on the day's meditation focus. Take your time.  There is no need to rush.  When you are ready to close, pray the Lord's Prayer and say the Motto of the Order.

 

May we all have a blessed Lent and take time to slow down and be one with each other where ever we are. 

 

Sara Macdonald

President, Province VIII

 

In This Issue
Lenten Meditation
Spirited Walking Meditation
Proposed Bylaw Amendments
Revised Trademark Policy
Practice Evangelism
Guatemala Chapter
Mexico Chapter
Chapter's Corner
I Love This Cross
Service and Evangelism


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Spirited Walking Meditation

 

Our theme this month is Peace.

  

Jesus gave us an amazing gift as his last meal with his disciples ended and he was preparing for what lay ahead.  He said, "Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you...." (John 14:27)  With that gift we shouldn't have any trouble resting in the Lord.  However, the realities of daily life intervene to prevent us from getting the kind of rest that is both physically and spiritually best for us.  This month focus on Jesus' gift of peace and how you can use that awareness to ensure you are getting the sleep and rest you need to take care of yourself and worship the Lord.

 

I will both lie down and sleep in peace; for you alone, O Lord, make me lie down in safety. 
Psalm 4:8

 

Click here to read the rest of this month's meditation on healthy sleep habits. Healthy sleeping habits can make a big difference in the state of your physical and spiritual well-being.  Participate in the on-going discussion centered on these articles on the Spirited Walking page of the website. 

 

Proposed Bylaw Amendments for 2015

 

Among other agenda items dealt with at the Triennial Assembly Meeting, the delegates discuss and vote on proposed changes to the Order's Bylaws.  The Bylaws state the rules by which the actions of the Order's members are governed.  At the November 2014 meeting of National Council, Council members recommended that three proposed changes to the Bylaws, as published in the 2012 Edition of the Handbook, be brought to the floor of the 2015 Triennial Assembly Meeting for vote by the Triennial delegates.  One proposed change would provide representation for Daughters-at-Large at Triennial.  Another change would require an audit of financial records rather than a review. (While not required, audits are already being conducted annually; this change would codify current practice). The third change clarifies the intent and consequences of Chapter Relief Status, or Dues Relief, for those Daughters age 85 or over who request it.  

 

These proposed changes to the Bylaws are now available in their entirety for review and discussion in the Winter 2015 issue of The Royal Cross and on our website, click here.  All members should be reviewing and discussing these proposed changes within their chapter meetings and Diocesan and Provincial Assemblies so delegates to Triennial Assembly Meeting are well prepared to represent their members.  

 

Susan O'Brien

Chair, Bylaws Committee

 

Revised Trademark Policy  

 

Do you want to build a snowman?

Do you want to bake a cake?

If you want to put our cross on it, 

then they may insist

to see the policy

that says that its OK!

 

Now that you have that tune in your head, I have some good news! You can now have cakes, cookies, cupcakes, brownies, and even pies decorated with our trademarked emblems!  We've had quite a few requests from bakers who, after finding out our emblems are trademarked, request permission to use them.  Good for them!

 

We have amended The Trademark Policy and Procedures of The Order to include cakes and other baked goods. Now found under "Permissible Use": 

 

Cakes and Other Baked Goods

Members in good standing may use The Order's name and trademarks on cakes and other baked goods without first obtaining special permission, but with the condition that, when practicable, they must ensure the � is present and visible at the end of The Order's name and present and visible on the lower right side of the cross chosen for use.  

 

Further, the cakes and baked goods may only be served at Daughters of the King events and gatherings.

 

So, if the baker requests special permission or even a trademark license agreement in order to decorate with our trademarked emblems, you can show him or her The Trademark Policy and state that, you, as a member in good standing, have permission to use our emblems.  

 

After that you can just..."Let it go! Let it go!"

 

Fun in Christ,

Jen Mariano

First Vice-President

 

Note:  The Trademark Policy and Procedures are available in their entirety on our website.  

 

Practice Evangelism

 

The vows we take at our Service of Admission to the Order reaffirm our promises made at baptism and confirmation.  The vows to pray, serve, and evangelize provide a structure within which to live out our baptismal vows, a structure that provides us continuing opportunities to grow spiritually in our prayer life, to serve others, and to bring others into relationship with Jesus and into the fellowship of the church (evangelism).  That last one - that "E" word - is for many the hardest to "do."  We think of our faith as something shared privately with God.  However, through workshops and retreats at chapter meetings, Diocesan and Provincial gatherings, and at Triennial, we can learn how to share our gift of faith lovingly and joyously.  

 

Evangelism was the theme at the Assembly and Retreat in Province VII held in San Antonio in 2014.  The Reverend Clayton Elder was one of the speakers.  In his words evangelism is "stirring people up for the kingdom of God."  He identifies four agents or players in evangelism: our Triune God, the Church, the Evangelist, and the Persons to be evangelized.  Everything starts with our Triune God, with prayer, through him all things are made possible.

 

One occasion for praying and "evangelizing" is a practice Daughters can do singly (Daughter at Large) or in a group (chapter).  The suggestion:  Arrive at church prior to a service.  Lay hands on and pray over each pew.  Pray for those who will be sitting in the pew.  Pray for their joys, for their concerns, for their relationships, for their knowledge of God's love (you get the idea).  That's it.  This suggestion may also be put into practice at our Diocesan and Provincial Assemblies when they are held at local parishes or over the chairs set up for business meetings at our Diocesan conventions.  

 

Other opportunities to evangelize include paying attention to the needs of the people around you (service); sharing your life, your faith within your church and outside its walls (telling your story); and prayer walking through your community (inviting someone to join you).  You are a silent witness through your actions, your behavior, and your everyday life.  To wear our cross is an evangelism tool that speaks volumes without a word being spoken. Evangelism takes God into the world wherever you are and carries the responsibility to be more than the light of the moment.  Too often those with whom we have shared our faith get lost because they are left after an initial encounter. Evangelism happens every day but it also requires followup.

 

Hopefully, these suggestions will make that "E" word easier to "do."   Hopefully, we will be emboldened to make public what we often want to keep private, sharing our faith story with others, sharing His love and shining His light.  Practice may not make us perfect, but it will make it easier.  So go, practice evangelism.


Susan O'Brien, National Secretary
Annemarie Delgado, National Treasurer

Institution of Rocia de Angeles in Bananera, Izabal, Guatemala  

While ministering in churches as an active priest and bishop, it was difficult for us to take a full month's vacation. It was usually a week or two and before we knew it, we were on our way back home. This time Eva and I decided to make it a three-month vacation. Before we left, Eva made plans to help in the training of members who were forming a new chapter in Guatemala (the northeastern region of the diocese).

Deacon Luz Hernandez took the initiative to train a group of ladies from her church, San Miguel y Todos Los Angeles in Bananera. Eva and I met with the group at a retreat center in the area and completed the training of this group of eight along with six others from the region.  This group continues to meet and will form another chapter.

On January 4, 2015, I was invited by Bishop Virgilio Arreaza to participate in the institution of the first chapter, Rocio de Angeles, in the northeastern region of the diocese.  Eight members were accepted: Deacon Luz Hernandez, Glenda de Cordon and her two daughters, Susana and Edith Cordon, and her sister Dora Lis Vasquez, Sulmi Marilu Jacinto Sosa, Jenifer Veronica Mejia, and Brenda Veronica Jacinto Sosa.  



St. Michael's and All the Angels was the first Episcopal Church in Guatemala. It was built for the US residents living at the United Fruit Company compound. It was a two-story building furnished with a mahogany altar, pews and pulpit, brass candle holders, a silver chalice and electric fans. They would sit in the front pews, and other visitors and members, mainly people from the West Indies, would have to sit in the back pews. The services were said in English. After the US residents left, the West Indian members continued the services in English, making it impossible for the native Guatemalans to attend. In the late 1950s, all Central American countries became part of the Episcopal Church, and services were then held in Spanish in this community of Bananera, known for its Chiquita Bananas. St. Michael's and All the Angels became San Miguel y Todos Los Angeles. Today, this small congregation continues to be an active congregation, though the United Fruit Company that made the community a vibrant and popular town is not active any more.  

These eight women felt proud and happy to become members of The Order of Daughters of the King. Their newly installed officers are: Glenda de Cordon, president; Glenda Susana Cordon, secretary; and Brenda Veronica Jacinto Sosa, treasurer. Bishop Arreaza was asked to be their chaplain and was installed that same morning. The members of the newly instituted chapter look forward to receiving new members and to make their congregation more active in their community.   

Bishop Sylvestre Romero
National Chaplain

Institution of First Chapter in Mexico 



The first chapter in Mexico, the Talitakum Chapter, was instituted on January 9, 2015, at Iglesia El Buen Pastor, Piedras Negras.  Those present for the institution included:  the Presiding Bishop of Mexico, the Most Reverend Francisco Moreno and his wife Esperanza; Padre Miguel Cristerna and his wife Reverend Maria Elena; and Reverend Tommy Bye, rector of St. Luke's Cypress Mill, Texas.  Also attending were Daughters from the chapter at St. Luke's (who introduced the Order to El Buen Pastor) and members of National Council, Missy Denney and Vivian Young.
Chapter's Corner

What is a "typical" Chapter meeting? That is the question.

This question is often asked of me, and is always asked at our Province IV Chapter Presidents' Forum each year at our Fall Assembly/Retreat. So what is the answer?

My answer is to look in the wonderful, newly published Chapter Manual and read the "Chapter Life" Section, pages 36-42. It is available to download on the National Website (click here) or it can be purchased from the National Office. In it you will find different formats for Chapter meetings depending on their size and the time available. The emphasis is on prayer, service and evangelism, and a spiritual meeting with intercessory prayer and study included. Business is a necessary part of Chapter life but should be kept to the minimum.

Just as we are uniquely formed by God, I believe Chapters are also uniquely formed by God and what one Chapter does, a similar one might not do. We should choose from all the ideas offered in the Manual and find just the right format for our Chapter. These formats often change when the Chapter President changes, and we should be flexible in our response to what the Lord is leading her to do.

One of the most important parts of the Chapter program, for me, is to begin by inviting Jesus and the Holy Spirit into our meetings, and then we should allow ourselves to be open to His leading. For example, in my own Chapter we had occasion recently to put aside our usual program because we needed to minister to one of our Daughters.  At the beginning of our meeting, we lit a candle and invited Jesus Christ to be among us.  After our opening worship and prayers and updating of the prayer list, we found that the Holy Spirit led us to help this Daughter - she had been abroad and had lost her husband since we had last seen her.  We listened to her and talked with her, and prayed for her and laid hands on her. The Holy Spirit clearly wanted us to love and support this Daughter in her grief and to forget about our study time that morning.

To me, loving and supporting our sisters in the Order is one of the most important aspects of our Chapter meetings and belonging to the Order.  While enjoying our typical Chapter meeting, including our worship, prayers and studies, I believe we should allow the Holy Spirit to enter our meetings and move among us so that we would be faithful servants of Jesus Christ and do what He would have us do in loving our sisters - even if we have to depart from our normal program. If we do it often enough, who knows - it may become a part of a "typical" Chapter meeting.

Lindy Kirk
Province IV President
I Love This Cross
 
It's back!  By special request, the Gallery of Crosses returns.  Initially offered June through August 2014, the gallery will reopen on a recurrent basis in 2015.

During the Gallery's first run, we saw crosses in churches, in various outdoor settings, and in jewelry settings.  The one common denominator was the cross called to an individual, becoming a part of that individual's faith story.  

Do you have a cross that calls to you in some way?  Maybe the crosses you always see at home have lost their allure because you see them all the time.  Maybe during your travels, you will see a new cross or maybe this hunt will make you more mindful and you will rediscover a cross previously seen.  Wherever it is, take a photo of the cross that calls to you and send it to me.  As a small number of photos of these crosses are submitted, we will add them to the gallery of crosses.  

Let the hunt continue.

Susan O'Brien
Editor, Cross+Links
Service and Evangelism




"To the weak I became weak, that I might win the weak. I have become all things
to all people that by all means I might save some." 1 Corinthians 9:22

 

I love the signs as I leave the parking lot of a church that say: "You are now entering the mission field."  We hear virtually the same thing in our closing prayer after Eucharist: 

 "And now Father, send us out to do the work you have given us to do, to love and serve you as faithful witnesses of Christ our Lord..." 
BCP pg  366


I'm guessing that somewhere in each of our stories there is someone who listened to us to hear our pain, sadness, anger.  How that person responded to us makes all the difference in the Kingdom of God.  Did the response:  

  • Seem merciful or unhelpful?
  • Touch our hearts or make us feel small and stupid?
  • Seem helpful to us or was it impatient or derisive?
When my mother died, I was 43.  A church member at our church didn't ply me with questions, she just said, "If you need to talk about your mom, give me a call."  This woman wasn't a particularly close friend, but we served on the Christian Education Committee and she knew I was a "Baby Christian," a term I use to say I had a lot of growing in Christ to do.   I filed her offer away not expecting to call on her.  However, one day I just needed to talk about my experience surrounding my mother's death, I remembered her offer and called her.  She was at home taking down Christmas decorations.  She invited me to stop by her house on my way home for work.  I did stop by, and I talked and talked as she continued taking down decorations as she listened.  That was over 30 years ago and I can still remember her home, the sense of peace she projected as she listened and I know that she was someone God put in my path for just that time.  It was a Holy time and I am most grateful to her for her offer and her response.

I imagine those of you reading this could tell one or more stories of how someone helped you work through a problem or an issue in your life.  I imagine you have positive and negative experiences around these experiences.  Perhaps you have been in the role of the listener who was helping someone else.  


God provides opportunities to stretch and grow and to help others stretch and grow. How we respond to these opportunities is up to us.  How we respond is crucial.  We can be a positive influence or a negative influence.  The positive influence can be called evangelism.

 

"All men seek Me, but all men do not know what they want. They are seeking because they are dissatisfied without realizing that I am the object of their quest. Count it your greatest joy to be the means, by your lives, suffering, words and Love, to prove to the questing ones you know that their search would end when they saw Me."   
God Calling by A.J. Russell, December 9.

 

Lyn Zolman,

Service and Evangelism Chair 


 
Almighty and everlasting God, you hate nothing you have made and forgive the sins of all who are penitent: Create and make in us new and contrite hearts, that we, worthily lamenting our sins and acknowledging our wretchedness, may obtain of you, the God of all mercy, perfect remission and forgiveness; through Jesus Christ our Lord, who lives and reigns with you and the Holy Spirit, one God,
for ever and ever
Amen.

 

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