News from Dougy Center, June 2024

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Focus on Hope

October 2024 Details coming soon

Children's Grief Awareness Day

November 21, 2024

Dougy Center Grief Education Webinars:

Grief as an Addiction? The Dangers of Pathologizing Grief

June 13, 2024

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Becoming Grief-Informed: Foundations of Grief Education

September 5, 2024

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Navigating Grief During the Holidays

October 3, 2024

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Tips for acknowledging Father's Day

Like many holidays throughout the year, Father’s Day can spark a multitude of emotions, especially when you’re grieving. A simple trip to the store, along with well-meaning questions from friends and family about your plans, can be challenging during the lead up to Father's Day. Then there is the day itself, which might be overwhelming to consider. For some, navigating this time of year prompts new and creative ways to acknowledge the day, which includes doing nothing at all!

If you’re concerned about the approach of Father’s Day, or want to support someone who is grieving, here are some suggestions to consider:

Remember the lead up can often be the hardest part. Be sure to build in time and activities that are comforting and supportive for at least a week before the holiday.

Come up with a plan, even if that plan is to do nothing. If you choose to acknowledge the day, consider doing something that connects you with the person and what they meant to you.

With children, it’s helpful to talk with them ahead of time about what they would like to do or not do. If one child wants to do something and another doesn’t, ask friends or family to help with the “being in two places at once” dilemma.

Let children know that it’s okay to want to celebrate and equally okay to not want to. Don’t force a child to pick another adult to honor, unless it’s something they want to do.

Be prepared for other people. There will be friends and family who reach out and those who don’t. Consider letting people know ahead of time what kinds of messages and texts feel supportive (and which ones don’t).

Social media will likely be a flurry of posts all about the day, including memories of past years. Consider taking a social media break or choose ahead of time what you want to post.

Plan something for yourself. It can be a hike, brunch with friends, a trip out of town, or anything that feels right to you. Think through what environment you want to be in, knowing that you are likely to run into families celebrating the day.

Focus on a category (food, movies, activities, color, music, etc.) and choose a few from one or all the categories that your person loved. If you don’t know, go with your best guess or pick the ones you love.

Volunteer. Doing something for others can often take us out of our own experience and create a sense of contribution, belonging, and connection. You might pick an organization or cause that was important to your person.

In the end, how you approach Father’s Day is as unique as grief and your relationship with the person who died. Let yourself be creative in figuring out what works and allow yourself to change your mind at the last minute. Download the Tip Sheet here.

Grief as an addiction? Join us for this important webinar

Join Dougy Center on June 13 for the next Grief Education Webinar, Grief as an Addiction? The Dangers of Pathologizing Grief, presented by Donna L. Schuurman, EdD, FT.

Labeling people who are grieving with “mental disorders” like Prolonged Grief Disorder, Complicated Grief, or Dysfunctional Grief has its proponents and critics. In this webinar we’ll take a brief but critical look at the movement and evidence for pathologizing grief, some of the implications of doing so, and why this matters.

Find more about this webinar and register here.

Thank you for making the 2024 Reflection Benefit and Porsche Boxster Raffle a HUGE success!

A huge thank you to everyone who attended the 2024 Reflection Benefit & Auction, participated in the online auction, and purchased a Porsche Boxster Raffle ticket! These events were truly a celebration of hope, transformation, and support for Dougy Center. We appreciate our generous community members who make Dougy Center's important grief support programs and resources possible. Together through the Benefit, Auction, and Raffle, we raised more than $875,000 to sustain our life-changing programs!

A special thanks to presenting sponsor KinderCare Learning Companies, event co-chairs Andrew & Tia Over and Tara & Edward Kinateder, and Porsche Beaverton. And congratulations to the winner of the 27th Annual Porsche Boxster Raffle, with ticket number 1759!

If you were unable to attend the Reflection Benefit & Auction, we encourage you to take a moment to watch the videos linked below that illustrate the profound impact Dougy Center has on the lives of children, teens, young adults, and families: 

Katie, Margot, and Sam's Story

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