The Rx for an Egotistical Attitude
I see a three-pronged attack to combat an egotistical attitude.
One strategy is to give generously, and this can take many forms. Practice acts of selfless giving, repeat for weeks or longer so it becomes natural, "Fake it 'til you make it." It's okay to pretend until your old selfishness dwindles away, and your heart opens up once again.
You can:
* Stop giving unsolicited advice and ignoring the wishes and opinions of others.
* Give material things, like gifts, flowers, money, cards, etc.
* Ask, "How can I help?" and carry through on promises you make
* Volunteer for a constructive cause
* Become a mentor, share your skills, experience, and knowledge with others
* Be affectionate. Genuinely use words of endearment, like honey, sweetie, dear
* Give loving looks, warm smiles, non-demanding hugs
* Give sexually without expecting anything in return
* Be generous with appreciations, praise, and applause
* Appreciate those who feel sad, understand those who feel angry, and reassure those who are fearful (extend the three communication bridges)
* Be welcoming and friendly. Take the initiative and express a heartfelt greeting ("I'm so glad to see you.")
* Listen with an open heart and without thinking about answers or solutions.
* Think loving thoughts throughout the day (see below)
* Speaking honestly about personal matters
* Give thanks, silently and out loud
The second strategy is to surrender the habit of having things "your way." Practice looking at life and making decisions based on what's best for the whole: family, community, and planet. Cooperate, collaborate, and compromise. Teamwork is more cumbersome because you have to integrate divergent perspectives and desires but it's fun and creates a connection with others and life.
The third way to chip away at this attitude is to interrupt your me-first thoughts and continually repeat to yourself something along the lines of:
Helping you is helping me.
Love first.
I wish you well.
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