May 29, 2024

A Message from Rev. Paula

Beloved Community,

Last night, a friend and I were having a conversation with some people from a parish that has been through a lot in the past year and a half. In one of those "Jinx!" moments, we both said "to everything there is a season," which is, as you probably already know, not only a line from a beautiful Pete Seeger song, but from the biblical wisdom book, Ecclesiastes. It's something I think we've both been thinking about, finding comfort in it, as we journey with parents toward the end of life.

The idea that nothing is truly permanent - other than God and God's love for us, of course! - is one that I have found truly helpful many times in my life, so helpful, in fact, that it is one of the lenses through which I see most things, a guiding principle in how I live into my ministry. I realize more and more that, rather than being a source of discomfort or grief, acknowledging change, including loss, is a part of life and, therefore, a part of my faith. It frees me to be more present in the moment. And when I am more present in the moment, there is more of me in my relationships with other people and with God, which means I am more aware of what the moment is and can be, even if it is fleeting. It's as if life becomes a kaleidoscope, full of brilliant and ever-changing colors and shapes, all of which are interconnected, none of which could be appreciated fully without having had the opportunity to glimpse that which came before.

I'll be honest, I'm not quite sure where this message is going, which maybe should worry me a bit but actually feels okay because it means I don't have to feel compelled to have an answer or to even look for an answer. Being in this moment, sharing it with you in this way, is one of the true joys and privileges of my ministry. And, if any of this resonates with you in any way that is helpful to you as you navigate the changes and seasons in your life and as we live our faith together, my hope is that you will know in that top-of-the-head-to-the-tips-of-the-toes way that God is with you.



Happening at St. Stephen's This Week...


Second Sunday After Pentecost

June 2 at 10:00am

ALL are welcome.

At Communion, you may receive the wine by sipping from the cup, reverently touching the base of the chalice, or you may choose Communion in one kind only (the bread).

Coffee Hour in the Parish Hall

after the service.

Our Coffee Hour Host is:

Ashley Morgan

Live-streamed to YouTube and Facebook. Bulletins are available on the St. Stephen's website. All links can be found at the bottom of the newsletter.

The Sunday service will also be broadcast on HTTV (Comcast TV 36 and

Verizon TV 33) on Tuesday at 6am and 3pm.


Sunday, June 2nd

11:30am - 1:00pm

Rev. Jane will be joining us as we discuss the first three chapters of the book we are reading together for our Year of Renewal: The Art of Pilgrimage: The Seeker's Guide to Making Travel Sacred by Phil Cousineau. Books are available free, thanks to the generosity of the Lilly Endowment Clergy Renewal Program.

"The classic guide to making travel meaningful. The Art of Pilgrimage is a travel guide full of inspiration for the spiritual traveler.

Not just for pilgrims. We are descendants of nomads. And although we no longer partake in this nomadic life, the instinct to travel remains. Whether we’re planning a trip or buying a secondhand copy of Siddhartha, we’re always searching for a journey, a pilgrimage. With remarkable stories from famous travelers, poets, and modern-day pilgrims, The Art of Pilgrimage is for the mindful traveler who longs for something more than diversion and escape."

Looking Ahead



10am - Sunday Worship

11:30pm - Reading with the Rector

1pm - AA Meeting


7:30pm - MA Meeting


Choir Appreciation Day

10am - Intergenerational Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

12pm - North Jersey Pride Festival

1pm - AA Meeting

JUN 10

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 15

11:00am - Pete Soltys Memorial

JUN 16

Last day of Children's Chapel

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Vestry Meeting

1pm - AA Meeting

JUN 17

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 19

7:30pm - Finance Committee Meeting

JUN 23

End of Year Celebration & Cookout

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

JUN 24

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 30

10am - Sunday Service

1pm - AA Meeting



10am - Sunday Worship

11:30pm - Reading with the Rector

1pm - AA Meeting


7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUL 4 & 5

Independence Day observ.

Preschool & Parish Office are closed.


10am - Sunday Worship

1pm - AA Meeting


7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 14

10am - Intergenerational Sunday Worship & Baptism

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

JUL 15

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUL 17

7:30pm - Finance Committee Meeting

JUL 21

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Vestry Meeting

1pm - AA Meeting

JUL 22

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUL 28

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

JUL 29

7:30pm - MA Meeting


A summary of information and the known dates of Rev. Paula’s sabbatical can be found on the St. Stephen’s website. Updates will be posted periodically.

Other Happenings...

Special Recognition & Gratitude

St. Stephen's 2024 Honoree:

Frances Taber


Sunday, June 9

St. Peter’s, Morristown

Reception at 3:00PM

Evensong at 4:00PM 

You are invited to join Bishop Hughes and the Senior Ministries of the Diocese of Newark for the 26th annual David P. Hegg II Lifetime Achievement Awards.

The David Paul Hegg II Lifetime Achievement Award is presented to recipients in recognition of their many contributions made to church and community.


Sunday, June 9

12:00 to 6:00pm

Memorial Park Amphitheatre

580 Valley Street, Maplewood

There will be live musical performances, 120+ vendors, a food court, a kid's zone and much more!

Stop by our booth, take a giveaway or

two, and help promote St. Stephen's,

The Church on Main Street where

LOVE begets LOVE!

For more info about the festival:



Please consider hosting!

Host(s) provide milk and food

for Coffee Hour on Sunday.

Sweet -or- savory.

Bought -or- made.

The hosting sign-up sheet is posted on the bulletin board in the narthex.


The Counting Ministry is required

for compliance with best business

practices and our audit process.

Please consider joining this team, which works in pairs immediately after the service. It’s actually one of the least time-consuming and most straightforward ways you can participate in the vital ministries of this parish.

Email Maria for the 2024 signup.

Faithful Outreach



We are continuing our hospitality ministry with Family Promise and will be "hosting" the week of June 16th, however, with a little change in format.


As you know, the families are sheltering in long-term stay hotels and we have been providing meals and groceries. Due to some recent drop-off related challenges, Family Promise has determined that the safest way for them to continue to provide essential services in a way that meets the needs of the families and respects their dignity is by the host congregations donating gift cards.  This commitment to the mission of their ministry is one of the reasons Family Promise is one of our designated ministry partners. 


So, to live our faith and in support of Family Promise and its truly life-changing mission, we ask that you show your support by donating ShopRite or DoorDash/Grubhub gift cards so that the families in shelter continue to be able to focus on their goals. You may bring the gift cards to Church services on June 9th and June 16th or drop them off at the Church office. If you have any questions, please talk with Linda Soughan or email her at


Thank you for your continuing and enthusiastic support of this long time St. Stephen's ministry!


North Porch Women & Infants' Centers provides emergency aid, in the form of baby supplies, to mothers and infants in northern New Jersey, to help them stabilize and improve the quality of their lives.

Our collection bin is located outside the education building doors year-round. Donations can be dropped off at any time. Items of urgent need are:

  • Enfamil 12.5 oz powdered baby formula and soy formula
  • Diapers sized 1 through 6 and Pull-ups of all sizes
  • Baby wipes
  • Jars of baby food all ages-fruit, veggie and 1st foods
  • Baby Cereal

If you would like to make a monetary donation to North Porch, please click here.


The Apostles' House Turns 40

this Year!!

Apostles' House provides compassionate care for homeless women, fostering healing and empowerment. They plan new programs focusing on trauma-informed care and crisis intervention, addressing immediate needs and long-term healing. They aim to create a space 

where every woman feels heard, breaking the cycle of homelessness.

Help Apostles' House celebrate their four decades of unwavering commitment by contributing to their goal of raising $400,000 this year!

Learn more here

Collection bins for non-perishable food and hygiene product donations are available year-round outside our education building doors.



@16-18 Grant Street

Newark, New Jersey 07104

Discover How You Can Be a Part of this Transformative Journey

Adopt-a-Room and help provide Stability, Builds Resilience & Encourage Independence.

By supporting The Apostles' House emergency shelters, you're not just providing a bed for a night - you're offering stability for an average 6-month stay. Your generosity helps them to maintain clean and welcoming spaces, fostering hope and healing for those who are rebuilding their lives.

Learn more here.

From Bishop Hughes & The Episcopal Church


NEW: This summer, share your gift of faith - 5/29/24

Reflecting on a conversation with a dad who is concerned about nurturing his children to be good, healthy young adults, Bishop Hughes reminds us that we received the gift of faith because someone, somewhere, talked with us about their faith, and encourages us to look for opportunities to talk about faith with young people this summer.

NEW: The Voice Online Link - 5/29/24


Sign up to receive important news, events and seasonal meditations from the Diocese of Newark.

Find out more and subscribe here.

During the Summer, the VOICE Online and The VOICE Digest will be published monthly on the second Wednesday of each month:

  • Wednesday, June 12
  • Wednesday, July 10
  • Wednesday, August 14

Publication will return to its regular schedule after Labor Day.

Racial Justice & Equity Pilgrimage

Saturday, June 8 at 8:45am

Grace Church, Madison

Join Bishop Hughes for a walking tour through the racial history of Madison, NJ.

The itinerary for this day-long pilgrimage has been developed by the Rev. George Dredden of the diocesan Racial Justice and Healing Commission, in conjunction with

Professor Jonathan Golden, Ph.D., Director of Drew University's Center on Religion, Culture and Conflict.

The pilgrimage will conclude no later than 4 PM. Breakfast and lunch will be provided.

Cost: $20 per person.

Deadline to register: Fri, May 31 at 12pm

For more info.


Trinity Retreat Center, located in the Northeast in West Cornwall, CT, offers a place of spirituality and gracious, authentic hospitality—where you can slow down, connect deeply with nature, experience the rhythm of a community, enjoy farm-to-table meals, discern direction for your life, and go home ready to make an even greater impact on the world.

Trinity Retreat Center is an Episcopal mission of Trinity Church Wall Street and is open to everyone, regardless of denomination or faith.

For more information, go to the Trinity Retreat Center's

Facebook page or website.

Cross Roads Camp & Diocesan Youth Ministries



Copper Hill Country Club

June 24

Can you believe it's been over two decades since Cross Roads started bringing joy and transformation to kids and families from all corners of New Jersey and beyond? It's been an incredible journey, and we owe it all to the amazing support of folks like you!

The life-changing impact of Cross Roads isn't just a stroke of luck – it's made possible by the generosity of countless individuals who support Cross Roads by giving their time and money to make our ministry possible and the Bishops' Cup is just that, an opportunity for you to invest in our ministry.

Bishops' Cup is a golf fundraiser hosted at the Copper Hill Country Club. You can participate by becoming a sponsor or registering as a golfer.

Thank you for being a part of our journey and for helping us continue to spread love, faith, and joy to all who walk onto our campus. Continue your support by joining us at this amazing event.

Learn more.


Cross Roads Camp and Retreat Center is a joint ministry of the Episcopal Diocese of Newark and the New Jersey Synod. Cross Roads is a welcoming and inclusive community providing life-changing and sacred adventures for renewal, growth, and joy.

Cross Roads is an inspiring and relaxing year-round retreat center offering comfortable facilities and professional programming for secular and spiritual groups of all ages. Located on 250 glorious acres atop the stunning mountain landscape of northwestern New Jersey, our cozy retreat centers and cabins house up to 300 people. Guests enjoy our beautiful hiking trails and an abundance of outdoor and indoor recreational areas including basketball, volleyball, soccer, football, and open space for field games.

To learn more about Cross Roads' offerings, click here.


Pop Up is a welcoming ministry of the Diocese of Newark bringing together youth for fun activities, community, and faith formation. All youth grades 6-12 are encouraged to join the monthly events.

Follow popupym on Instagram

and Facebook.


In this time of Crisis, there are many resources that can help if you or someone you know needs assistance. Please contact NJ Mental Health Cares for free helpline telephone counseling or assistance. Call 866-202-4357.

TTY: 1-877-294-4356.


Other resources are:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


Crisis Text Line, 741741

NJ Hope Line (suicide prevention) 



Weekly AA meetings:

Sunday at 1:00pm

Contact: Rob H. (516) 860-9062

AA meetings are presented in Big Book format.

For more information about Alcohol Anonymous, click here.

Weekly MA meeting:

Monday at 7:30pm

Contact: Max T. (212) 203-2542

Contact: Deana L. (908) 499-8997

MA meetings are presented in a rotating format:

Step - Speaker - Story from Life with Hope - Topic

For more information about Marijuana Anonymous, click here.

Prayer List
Please keep the following St. Stephen's family
members and friends in your prayers...

Harold Williams

Ken Duge

Donna Bogardus

Ruth and Ron Gadbois

Lucy and Habib Faris

Jody Caldwell

Gina del Russo

 Dan Brown

Karen McCarthy


Lucy Bingham

Linda Petrillo

Jennifer Reilly

David Losito

Jack Moreno

 Melissa Guerrero


Kevin Young

Luther and Leon

Muriel Cruikshank

Jimmy Holl

Lillian Sutich

David Schnurrenberger

Mary Loucas

Sean Fitzgerald

Evie Larson

Donna Riggi

If you would like to add someone to our prayer list, please email us at, or call (973) 376-0688 Ext. 32.

Anyone for whom we are praying will be on our prayer list for six weeks. If prayers are still needed beyond that time period, please let us know. Thank you.

Sunday Lectionary

The Second Sunday After Pentecost

June 2, 2024

We are using the new lectionary,

Wilda Gafney's A Women's Lectionary for the Whole Church, Year B.

  • Isaiah 51:1–6
  • Psalm 92:1–5, 12–15
  • 1 Corinthians 3:1–9
  • Mark 4:30–34

Our bulletins are available here.

Giving with


Giving with is easy with options for recurring donations or one-time use for when you are away or not able to be in church.

You can access giving here.

Office Notes

Only teachers and staff are allowed to be in the building during school hours. If you need to visit the parish office/building for any reason, please contact us for an appointment. Thank you.


Tuesday - Friday

9:00am to 5:00pm

Important Links
Zoom Links

Sunday Worship

Meeting ID: 864 1664 1640

Passcode: SSM119

To call in, dial by your location:

+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)

Adult Formation

Meeting ID: 878 3014 4448

Passcode: SSM119

To call in, dial by your location:

+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)

Links for Sunday Worship Live-Stream & Social Media
Website Links
Other Social Media Links


St. Stephen's Episcopal Church
119 Main Street, Millburn, NJ 07041


Parish Administrator, Maria T. Card

973.376.0688, Ext. 2

Rector, The Rev. Paula J. Toland

973.376.0688, Ext. 4

Fax: 973.376.4002



Director: Nancy Siracusa

973.376.0688, Ext. 1


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