May 2024

May at a Glance

Fri., May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31, 11am - Irwin Walk with Kate

Tues., May 7, 10am - Ladies' Coffee at Staying Put

Thurs., May 9, 10am - Men's Coffee at Staying Put

Tues., May 14, 11am - Andy Warhol Exhibit at The Bruce Museum & Lunch

Thurs., May 16, 11am - Lee Garden Tour and Lunch

Tues., May 21, 6pm - Sandwich Generation at New Canaan Library

Wed., May 22, 12:30pm - Lunch and Learn at Lapham - Fraud with NCPD

Thurs., May 23, 10am - Men's Coffee with Selectman Amy Murphy Carroll

Mon., May 27, 9am - March with Staying Put at The Memorial Day Parade

Tues., May 28, 11:30am - Let's Talk About It at Staying Put with Lunch

Wed., May 29, 10am - Coffee with Tiger Mann at Waveny House

Wed, May 29, 12pm - Book Talk Group at Staying Put

Thurs., May 30, 12pm - Lunch at Pesca


Don't forget to call Staying Put at 203-966-7762 to sign up for member events. Please RSVP!


Fri., May 3, 10, 17, 24, 31, 11am: Irwin Walk with Kate. Take a lovely walk around Irwin Park with Kate. Please meet in the lower parking lot at Irwin Park and don't forget your sneakers and water bottle. Note - this is for active members with no mobility issues. Free. RSVP by Thursday prior.

Tues., May 7, 10am: Ladies' Coffee at Staying Put. Join Staying Put friends for coffee, treats and good conversation. Free. RSVP by Mon., May 6th.

Thurs., May 9, 10am: Men's Coffee at Staying Put. Join Staying Put friends for coffee, treats and good conversation. Free. RSVP by Wed., May 8th.

Tues., May 14, 11am: Andy Warhol Exhibit at The Bruce Museum followed by lunch. Join us for a docent led tour followed by lunch. Tour starts promptly at 11am, so plan to be at the museum by 10:45am. A bag lunch will be included with choice of Curried Chicken Wrap, Mediterranean Chicken, American Tuna, Turkey BLT, Ultimate Avocado, Herb Chicken Salad, Ham & Cheese or Mini Tomato & Mozzarella. Choice of side salad, chips and drink. Carpool will be available from the Staying Put parking lot. Space limited to 12 members. $20 per person. Cash or check made out to Staying Put in New Canaan. RSVP by Fri., May 3rd.

Thurs., May 16, 11am: Tour of Lee Garden and Lunch. Enjoy a tour of the beautiful azalea blooms at Lee Memorial Garden with Faith Kerchoff of the New Canaan Beautification League. Lunch will be served on the patio after the tour. As the trails are uneven, proper footwear is required. 89 Chichester Road. Carpool available from the Staying Put parking lot. Free. RSVP by Mon., May 13th.

Tues., May 21, 6pm: The Sandwich Generation Series: Operating Instructions: The Legal Side of Senior Care. The legal concerns in senior care can often be as impactful as the clinical. They range from the basic documentation one should have for the Medicaid application process to asset protection. We’ll explain the basic documentation - what each piece does and does not do - and what happens when one doesn’t have these documents (or they aren’t properly done). We’ll also explore the planning that should be done before a crisis and how that planning helps. Free. RSVP by Mon., May 20th.

Wed., May 22, 12:30pm: Lunch and Learn - Fraud Prevention. New Canaan Police Lt. Marc DeFelice, Detective Tom Patten and representatives from AARP will lead a discussion on fraud prevention. Free. RSVP by Mon., May 20th.

Thurs., May 23, 10am. Men's Coffee at Staying Put with Selectman Amy Murphy Carrol. Join Staying Put friends for coffee, treats and good conversation with former Board of Finance member and current Selectman Amy Murphy Carrol. Free. RSVP by Wed., May 22nd.

Mon., May 27, 9am: March with Staying Put at the Memorial Day Parade. Grab your sneakers, join your friends and march with Staying Put. Meet at the St. Mark's parking lot at 9am and the parade starts at 9:30am. The parade route is just over a mile. Note - this is for active members with no mobility issues. Free. RSVP by Wed., May 22nd.

Tues., May 28, 11:30am: Let's Talk About It: The Name Game and Lunch with Kathy Blance. What's in a name? According to Shakespeare, not that much, as he wrote in Romeo and Juliet: “That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet."

But when it comes to everyday products and advertising, the name can be crucial to its success and the history behind it can be surprising!

We’ll look at what's behind the name of some well-known products, the power of branding, and how the original brand name can morph into the common way to refer to a product OR an action (are you ‘googling’ that right now?). Free. RSVP by Fri., May 24th.

Wed., May 29, 10am: Members' Coffee with Tiger Mann at Waveny House. Come for coffee and treats and hear about what is happening around town from the Director of Public Works. Free. RSVP by Tues., May 28th.

Wed., May 29, 12pm: Book Talk Group and Lunch at Staying Put.  Join Staying Put members for lunch and an exchange of recommendations about current fiction and non-fiction books they have enjoyed reading. Lunch will be provided. Free. RSVP by Tues., May 28th.

Thurs., May 30, 12pm: Lunch at Pesca. Join your Staying Put friends and enjoy lunch from the Pesca Express Lunch Menu. Carpooling available from the Staying Put parking lot. $25. Cash or Check made out to Staying Put. RSVP by Tues., May 28th.


Member Birthdays

Howard Aronson, Judy Bentley, Brigitte Campano, Chris Chapin, Jeannie Hart, Mary House, Phil Ives, Peggy Jay, Arnt Hugo Lund,

David Munro, Cathie Pike, Molly Russo, Lois Sandberg, Herb Schaeffer,

Skip Sisson, Ed Vollmer

Hello From Kate

My phone rang the other day and I didn’t recognize the number but it was a Connecticut area code and my daughter was not with me so I am always inclined to answer on the chance that it is somehow related to Adelaide. It was not. Rather, it was a warm, friendly voice saying that my medical coverage was contingent on arranging an appointment with a “third party” to ensure I maintain my insurance. What the what!? Multiple alarms start going off. The fear of losing insurance coverage is at the forefront and would make any one of us immediately compliant. However, the more important alarm also went off which was, why in the world would an insurance company want my personal information with a third party? When she asked me to confirm my date of birth, I said no thank you and hung up the phone. Yes, she had a kind voice, no that does not mean it is trustworthy. And listen, maybe it was a legit call, and something I will have to deal with, but you know what, I can call my insurance company directly using the number on my insurance card and verify directly with them.

Unfortunately, people seeking your personal information is real, prevalent, and persistent. We have to remain vigilant, cautious and skeptical. With phone calls or texts:

·         Don’t answer or respond if you don’t know the number.

·         Don’t offer or confirm any personal data over the phone unless you have placed the phone call.

·         Create a code word for your family to use so when a “grandson calling

from Italy” needs money you ask them to repeat your family code word to

ascertain if it really is your grandchild.

·         The IRS will never call you and ask for personal information (they already have it!).

With emails:

·         Always check the sender email completely and check if it is from a trustworthy account. And even if it is…

·         Don’t buy gift cards for family or friends who are emailing you, even if it’s from their personal email. Do not reply. Call them and let them know they’ve been hacked.

·         Banks, Insurance providers, Amazon or other subscription services will not email you threatening to cancel your account. If you receive anything like this, do not reply, do not click any links. Call them directly.


Free Paper Shredding at New Canaan Transfer Station

Saturday, May 4, 8am - 1pm

394 Main Street Entrance

New Canaan residents can bring paper to be shredded for free by the Town of New Canaan. For more information go to:

New Canaan Chamber Music's Children & Families Concert 

, Sunday, May 5, 3pm – 4pm

Jim & Dede Bartlett Auditorium, New Canaan Library

Children 4-18 free with ticket-holding adult.

Ticket and registration required. For more information go to:

From Loneliness to Connection: Learning & Healing with Experts from Silver Hill Hospital 

, Monday, May 6, 6:30pm – 8pm

Jim & Dede Bartlett Auditorium, New Canaan Library

This frank, informative conversation with experts from Silver Hill Hospital will explain why loneliness has become so prevalent, what it can look like, and discuss practical ideas for cultivating a life of meaning and connection.

To register go to:

Lapham Center

Call 203-594-3620 for more information and to RSVP.

Thurs., May 2, 16, by appointment: Free Medicare Counseling. Medicare counselor, Dick Neville, can guide you through enrolling in Medicare, choosing a Medicare supplement plan and a Part D prescription drug plan, and understanding the Medicare Advantage Plans. Free.

Fri., May 3, 10, 17, 31, 12pm: Movies on Fridays.

May 3: The Taste of Things, May 10: The Hill, May 17: Maestro, May 31: Anatomy of a Fall. Free.

Wed., May 8, 22, 1pm - 2pm: Blood Sugar Screenings.

In person screenings provided by New Canaan Health Department.

Call to schedule an appointment. Free.

Thurs., May 9, 1pm - 2pm: Conversation and Coffee with a Cop. Have coffee with Community Impact Officer Nicole Vartuli. Free.

Thurs., May 9, 2pm - 4pm, by appointment: Ask the Attorney with Michael Nedder. Private, fifteen-minute consultations to answer your legal or financial questions. Free.

Friday, May 10, 11am - 12pm: Health Talks with Shannon and Ellen. Coffee, conversation and snacks with Shannon and Ellen from

New Canaan Health Department. Free.

Mon., May 13, 11:15am - 12:15pm: Blood Pressure Clinic.

In person clinic. Call to schedule an appointment. Free.

Tues., May 14, 9am - 4pm: Metropolitan Museum of Art. Lapham will be hosting a trip to this most beloved destination! Fee covers the bus trip. Note - this is for active members with no mobility issues. $65.

Fri., May 17, 9am - 11:30am: Hearing Screenings and Hearing Aid Cleanings. Call to schedule an appointment. Free.

Staying Put in New Canaan Services and Staff

Our Team is Here for You

Staying Put provides New Canaan seniors with a wide range of practical services and social connections - from rides to helping with errands, minor home repairs and technology, to brightening the day with a call or visit - all making it easier for seniors to live confidently at home and stay engaged in the community.

Help is a Phone Call Away

Caring professionals to turn to for help, information, referrals, counseling, support and personalized assistance.


Door-to-door rides within New Canaan and to local towns.

Social Events

Fun and enriching gatherings, excursions, and programs to be active and connect with others.

Groceries & Errands

Grocery shopping, prescription pick up and other helpful errands.

Help at Home

Minor home repairs, changing ceiling light bulbs, moving heavy objects and more.

Technology Assistance

One-on-one assistance in the home to troubleshoot issues for computers, televisions, cell phones and other electronic devices.

Professional Service Providers

Trusthworthy member-only vetted list of home service and repair professionals for hire.

Communication and Visits

Keeping in touch with those who may be facing issues of loneliness and isolation.

Community Resource

Education, advice and referrals for healthy aging.


Make an appointment to have documents notarized in our office.

Gina Z. Blum, Executive Director

Kate Brambilla, Manager of Member Services

Robin Bates-Mason, Manager of Events & Volunteers

Office Hours

Monday - Thursday, 9am to 5pm

Friday, 9am to 1pm

Please call us anytime

at 203-966-7762

Gina, Kate and Robin

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