May 15, 2024

A Message from Rev. Paula

Beloved Community,

I am re-reading a book that I hope all of you will read as part of our Year of Renewal (YOR), which begins in September. (I've ordered copies for each household, thanks to the generosity of the Lilly Endowment Fund grant we received.) The book is The Art of Pilgrimage: The Seeker's Guide to Making Travel Sacred by Phil Cousineau. It's a book I've read before, the first time during a period when I was searching for something I couldn't quite put my finger on, though I knew deep in my soul that whatever it was important to my very being. It ended up being answering the call to ordained ministry, something I had long thought impossible.

Now as I re-read it in preparation for my sabbatical and our YOR, I find myself just as grateful for the wisdom it holds as I did the first time I read it (and the time after that). Yesterday, as Rev. Jane, who will covering for me during my sabbatical and journeying with us during the YOR, and I were doing some preparation, a passage fairly jumped off the page. I share it with you know because it speaks so directly to so much of what we've been talking about with great intentionality this past year. I hope it speaks to you in some meaningful way, if not today then at some point in the future.

The passage follows a quote from sculptor Henry Moore about the secret of life being having a task about which you are passionate and completely devoted, one that seems impossible.

Imagine the courage behind these tasks. By what sacred story are you living? What task have you set for yourself? Can you tell your life story, accomplish your task, from where you are?...

...Where your heart wanders during those chambered moments will show you the direction of your true longing. We speak of God and geniuses and heroes and sacred sites, but these are only names for the ineffable mystery of the force behind something our souls long to be in touch with. No practical philosophy explains this urge. It is a force from the mysterious shadow world that may in turn long for us.

"Isn't it time," Alan Jones asks, "that your drifting was consecrated into pilgrimage? You have a mission. You are needed. The road that leads to nowhere has to be abandoned...It is a road for joyful pilgrims on the recovery of passion."

As we begin in earnest preparations for our YOR, I pray that you are able to begin to? continue to? get in touch with your inner longing and discern how that fits with the most sacred of stories - God's love at work in the world, in and through you.



T-Shirt Fundraiser

THANK YOU to our parishioners, staff, and friends who supported our t-shirt fundraiser. We didn't quite hit our goal, but your purchases took us 60% of the way there. Because of you and your support of our lovely Church on Main Street, we are able to have our beautiful t-shirts printed.

All t-shirts should be delivered around May 28th.

Be sure to join us in your new t-shirt at the North Jersey Pride Festival in Maplewood on June 9th! We’ll have giveaways;)

Happening at St. Stephen's This Week...


Day of Pentecost

and Baptism

May 19 at 10:00am

ALL are welcome.

At Communion, you may receive the wine by sipping from the cup, reverently touching the base of the chalice, or you may choose Communion in one kind only (the bread).

Coffee Hour in the Parish Hall

after the service.

Our coffee hour hosts are:

Julia and Margaret

Live-streamed to YouTube and Facebook. Bulletins are available on the St. Stephen's website. All links can be found at the bottom of the newsletter.

The Sunday service will also be broadcast on HTTV (Comcast TV 36 and

Verizon TV 33) on Tuesday at 6am and 3pm.



Saturday, May 18th

8:30am - 2:30pm

Come out and show your love for this lovely piece of God's creation. Bring a pair of gardening gloves, a shovel, a rake, or just yourself, your family and friends! Come for the day, or just an hour or two. We'll be beautifying the campus, doing a little building, filling the beds with soil, and spreading mulch. We'll supply the cold drinks, snacks, and a quick lunch for those who are here at lunch time. Though it's not a requirement, if you think you'll be coming, shoot us an email so we know how to plan for food. And, as always, don't hesitate to join us if you have a last minute change of plans. We always have enough.

For those who would like to donate plants for the Good News Garden, the SignUp is here

Looking Ahead


MAY 15

7:30pm - Finance Committee Meeting

MAY 16

7pm - Preschool Committee Meeting

MAY 18

Gardening & Campus Cleanup Day

8:30am - 2:30pm

MAY 19

Day of Pentecost

10am - Sunday Worship & Baptism

11:30am - Vestry Meeting

1pm - AA Meeting

MAY 21

7:30pm - MA Meeting

MAY 26

10am - Sunday Service

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

MAY 27

7:30pm - MA Meeting



10am - Sunday Worship

11:30pm - Reading with the Rector

1pm - AA Meeting


7:30pm - MA Meeting


Choir Appreciation Day

10am - Intergenerational Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

12pm - North Jersey Pride Festival

1pm - AA Meeting

JUN 10

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 16

Last day of Children's Chapel

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Vestry Meeting

1pm - AA Meeting

JUN 17

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 19

7:30pm - Finance Committee Meeting

JUN 23

End of Year Celebration & Cookout

10am - Sunday Worship

11:30am - Youth Group

1pm - AA Meeting

JUN 24

7:30pm - MA Meeting

JUN 30

10am - Sunday Service

1pm - AA Meeting


A summary of information and the known dates of Rev. Paula’s sabbatical can be found on the St. Stephen’s website. Updates will be posted periodically.

Other Happenings...


Sunday, June 9

12:00 to 6:00pm

Memorial Park Amphitheatre

580 Valley Street, Maplewood

There will be live musical performances, 120+ vendors, a food court, a kid's zone and much more!

Stop by our booth, take a giveaway or

two, and help promote St. Stephen's,

The Church on Main Street where

LOVE begets LOVE!

For more info about the festival:


Please consider hosting!

Host(s) provide milk and food

for Coffee Hour on Sunday.

Sweet -or- savory.

Bought -or- made.

The hosting sign-up sheet is posted on the bulletin board in the narthex.


The Counting Ministry is required

for compliance with best business

practices and our audit process.

Please consider joining this team, which works in pairs immediately after the service. It’s actually one of the least time-consuming and most straightforward ways you can participate in the vital ministries of this parish.

Email Maria for the 2024 signup.

Faithful Outreach


June 16th


We are continuing our hospitality ministry with Family Promise and will be "hosting" the week of June 16th.

As you may remember,  the families are sheltering in long-term stay hotels.   We provide one meal for each family along with some grocery items. We will collect grocery donations after the church service on June 16th.  We will deliver our meals and the grocery donations to the Family Promise office in Montclair on Tuesday morning June 18th.

We do not yet have information on the families to plan for meals or grocery list items.  However, once we have them, we will provide an update with items needed.  In the meantime, if you have any questions, please talk with Linda Soughan or email her at


"For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me.”


North Porch Women & Infants' Centers provides emergency aid, in the form of baby supplies, to mothers and infants in northern New Jersey, to help them stabilize and improve the quality of their lives.

Our collection bin is located outside the education building doors year-round. Donations can be dropped off at any time. Items of urgent need are:

  • Enfamil 12.5 oz powdered baby formula and soy formula
  • Diapers sized 1 through 6 and Pull-ups of all sizes
  • Baby wipes
  • Jars of baby food all ages-fruit, veggie and 1st foods
  • Baby Cereal

If you would like to make a monetary donation to North Porch, please click here.


The Apostles' House Turns 40

this Year!!

Apostles' House provides compassionate care for homeless women, fostering healing and empowerment. They plan new programs focusing on trauma-informed care and crisis intervention, addressing immediate needs and long-term healing. They aim to create a space 

where every woman feels heard, breaking the cycle of homelessness.

Help Apostles' House celebrate their four decades of unwavering commitment by contributing to their goal of raising $400,000 this year!

Learn more here

Collection bins for non-perishable food and hygiene product donations are available year-round outside our education building doors.

From Bishop Hughes & The Episcopal Church


NEW: How you can support the newly Confirmed, Received and Reaffirmed - 5/1/24

If you want to grow the church, says Bishop Hughes, start by growing your own faith in fellowship with other faithful Christians, which will empower you to talk about faith with others who need to hear the good news that they are loved by God. 

NEW: The Voice Online Link - 5/15/24


Sign up to receive important news, events and seasonal meditations from the Diocese of Newark.

Find out more and subscribe here.

Racial Justice & Equity Pilgrimage

Saturday, June 8 at 8:45am

Grace Church, Madison

Join Bishop Hughes for a walking tour through the racial history of Madison, NJ.

The itinerary for this day-long pilgrimage has been developed by the Rev. George Dredden of the diocesan Racial Justice and Healing Commission, in conjunction with

Professor Jonathan Golden, Ph.D., Director of Drew University's Center on Religion, Culture and Conflict.

The pilgrimage will conclude no later than 4 PM. Breakfast and lunch will be provided.

Cost: $20 per person.

For more info.


Trinity Retreat Center, located in the Northeast in West Cornwall, CT, offers a place of spirituality and gracious, authentic hospitality—where you can slow down, connect deeply with nature, experience the rhythm of a community, enjoy farm-to-table meals, discern direction for your life, and go home ready to make an even greater impact on the world.

Trinity Retreat Center is an Episcopal mission of Trinity Church Wall Street and is open to everyone, regardless of denomination or faith.

For more information, go to the Trinity Retreat Center's

Facebook page or website.

Cross Roads Camp & Diocesan Youth Ministries



Copper Hill Country Club

JUNE 24, 2024

Can you believe it's been over two decades since Cross Roads started bringing joy and transformation to kids and families from all corners of New Jersey and beyond? It's been an incredible journey, and we owe it all to the amazing support of folks like you!

The life-changing impact of Cross Roads isn't just a stroke of luck – it's made possible by the generosity of countless individuals who support Cross Roads by giving their time and money to make our ministry possible and the Bishops' Cup is just that, an opportunity for you to invest in our ministry.

Bishops' Cup is a golf fundraiser hosted at the Copper Hill Country Club. You can participate by becoming a sponsor or registering as a golfer.

Thank you for being a part of our journey and for helping us continue to spread love, faith, and joy to all who walk onto our campus. Continue your support by joining us at this amazing event.

Learn more.


Pop Up is a welcoming ministry of the Diocese of Newark bringing together youth for fun activities, community, and faith formation. All youth grades 6-12 are encouraged to join the monthly events.

Follow popupym on Instagram

and Facebook.


In this time of Crisis, there are many resources that can help if you or someone you know needs assistance. Please contact NJ Mental Health Cares for free helpline telephone counseling or assistance. Call 866-202-4357.

TTY: 1-877-294-4356.


Other resources are:

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline


Crisis Text Line, 741741

NJ Hope Line (suicide prevention) 



Weekly AA meetings:

Sunday at 1:00pm

Contact: Rob H. (516) 860-9062

AA meetings are presented in Big Book format.

For more information about Alcohol Anonymous, click here.

Weekly MA meeting:

Monday at 7:30pm

Contact: Max T. (212) 203-2542

Contact: Deana L. (908) 499-8997

MA meetings are presented in a rotating format:

Step - Speaker - Story from Life with Hope - Topic

For more information about Marijuana Anonymous, click here.

Prayer List
Please keep the following St. Stephen's family
members and friends in your prayers...

Harold Williams

Ken Duge

Donna Bogardus

Ruth and Ron Gadbois

Lucy and Habib Faris

Jody Caldwell

Gina del Russo

 Dan Brown

Karen McCarthy


Lucy Bingham

Linda Petrillo

Jennifer Reilly

David Losito

Jack Moreno

 Melissa Guerrero


Kevin Young

Luther and Leon

Muriel Cruikshank

Jimmy Holl

Lillian Sutich

David Schnurrenberger

Mary Loucas

Sean Fitzgerald

Evie Larson

Pete Soltys

If you would like to add someone to our prayer list, please email us at, or call (973) 376-0688 Ext. 32.

Anyone for whom we are praying will be on our prayer list for six weeks. If prayers are still needed beyond that time period, please let us know. Thank you.

Sunday Lectionary

Day of Pentecost

May 19, 2024

We are using the new lectionary,

Wilda Gafney's A Women's Lectionary for the Whole Church, Year B.

  • Acts 2:1-18
  • Isaiah 44:1-8 (alternate)
  • Psalm 104:1-4, 10-15, 27-30
  • Romans 8:14-27
  • John 14:8-17

Our bulletins are available here.

Giving with


Giving with is easy with options for recurring donations or one-time use for when you are away or not able to be in church.

You can access giving here.

Office Notes

Only teachers and staff are allowed to be in the building during school hours. If you need to visit the parish office/building for any reason, please contact us for an appointment. Thank you.


Tuesday - Friday

9:00am to 5:00pm

Important Links
Zoom Links

Sunday Worship

Meeting ID: 864 1664 1640

Passcode: SSM119

To call in, dial by your location:

+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)

Adult Formation

Meeting ID: 878 3014 4448

Passcode: SSM119

To call in, dial by your location:

+1 646 876 9923 US (New York)

Links for Sunday Worship Live-Stream & Social Media
Website Links
Other Social Media Links


St. Stephen's Episcopal Church
119 Main Street, Millburn, NJ 07041


Parish Administrator, Maria T. Card

973.376.0688, Ext. 2

Rector, The Rev. Paula J. Toland

973.376.0688, Ext. 4

Fax: 973.376.4002



Director: Nancy Siracusa

973.376.0688, Ext. 1


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