“Don’t believe every worried thought you have.
Worried thoughts are notoriously inaccurate.”
Renee Jain
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When we think of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, we typically think of a natural disaster like an earthquake or tornado, or military combat, or some type of physical assault or abuse, or an accident. But experts contend that the pandemic will create its own PTSD that some of us will experience to some degree. Whether or not we, or people to whom we're close, have had COVID-19, the collective trauma we've experienced is enough to trigger residual anxiety that many people will feel for some time.
Not everyone develops full-blown PTSD after a traumatic event. The National Institute of Mental Health writes that, while most but not all individuals who've experienced a traumatic event experience short term symptoms, very few individuals will develop the chronic anxiety disorder that is the basis of a PTSD diagnosis. The important thing is to acknowledge what we're feeling and not try to minimize it or pretend the feelings don't exist.
So what do we do to alleviate the anxiety that many of us will carry long after the pandemic ends? One of the most important things we can do is talk with others about what we're feeling.
Diane E. Meier, director of the Center to Advance Palliative Care, which is part of New York City's Mount Sinai Hospital, offers some thoughts. “If ever we needed to be reminded of how important human connection and support is for people . . . this pandemic has made the point very, very clearly.”
Dr. Meier points out that there are many "shadow pandemics," as she describes them, that have occurred simultaneously during the pandemic. One in particular is the roughly ten people who are grieving for every person who has died from COVID. That’s more than five million people. She believes that our collective grief will be with us long after we get the virus under control. "Our current president has worked hard to begin to address that through the ritual ceremonies to remember the dead and honor them, and he has talked a lot about his own losses, to normalize talking about losses and how they’re with you every day. That’s important. We need other people to do it too."
Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist, suggests there’s no hierarchy of grief. "When we rank our losses, when we validate some and minimize others, many people are left alone to grieve what then become their silent losses. It’s hard to talk about these silent losses because we fear that other people will find them insignificant and either dismiss them or expect us to “get over them” relatively quickly." It doesn't work that way.
Right now, in addition to the loss of life and health and jobs are countless other losses - missed graduations and proms, canceled sports seasons and performances, postponed weddings and vacations, separation from family and friends when we need them most. We've also lost the predictability we came to take for granted, such as eggs and toilet paper on supermarket shelves, getting a haircut, getting our teeth cleaned, or going to a movie.
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Dr. Gottlieb suggests the first step to coping with these losses is to simply acknowledge the grief we feel. Grieving requires us to sit with our pain and to feel a kind of sadness that makes many of us so uncomfortable we try to get rid of it. "The more we can say to ourselves and the people around us, “Yes, these are meaningful losses,” the more seen and soothed we will feel."
With COVID-19, Dr. Gottlieb points out, there’s also uncertainty about how long the pandemic will last and what will happen next. That uncertainty can cause us to mourn losses we haven’t even experienced yet. Known as "ambiguous grief," it can leave us in a state of ongoing mourning, so it’s important for us to stay grounded in the present. Instead of ruminating about losses that haven’t actually happened (and may never happen), we can focus our attention and energy on the present. Essentially, we can feel our loss and also feel safe exactly where we are. "We may have lost our sense of normalcy, but we can still stay present for the ordinary right in front of us."
Finally, we need to let people experience loss in their own way. Dr. Gottlieb reminds us that, while loss is universal, the ways in which we grieve are deeply personal. For some, the loss of stability can lead to a profound emotional reckoning with mortality. For others, it leads to cleaning out closets or stress-baking. "Everyone moves through loss in a unique way, so it’s important to let people do their grieving in whatever way works for them."
As the world begins to open back up, it's likely that many of us will be a bit timid about re-engaging in some of the activities we used to enjoy. Going to the theater or a concert, eating in a restaurant, attending a sporting event, all will likely cause a bit of anxiety, at least at first. And we'll probably be hyper-vigilant about news of disease outbreaks around the world. Some of us will likely not be able to avoid looking over our shoulder for the next big disaster for a long time to come. Just remember, it's all normal and it's all part of the healing process.
Just keep doing what you've been doing. Through the combined efforts of staff and volunteers, we can keep the Kitchen Angels community safe and we can help each other heal.
In gratitude for all that you do.
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Thank you for your vigilance. We want you to stay safe,
healthy, and informed.
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Santa Fe goes Turquoise
Santa Fe County received a turquoise designation last Wednesday from the New Mexico Department of Health. Turquoise means Santa Fe County made another stride in the fight against COVID-19.
As a result of improved coronavirus statistics, the county received permission to allow more customers into restaurants, entertainment venues and other places. The picture continues to improve statewide.
Randy Randall, Tourism Santa Fe Executive Director, reminded people when the new designation was announced, “The key is to not make the assumption that things are perfectly normal. The way we stay turquoise is to assure that visitors continue to wear masks and socially distance. It will be our own fault if we fall backwards.”
Dr. David Scrase, Human Services Department Secretary, said that even with New Mexico’s progress, residents must remain cautious. “We may be wearing masks for a long time.” New Mexico still sees five to 10 deaths a day from the disease, he said. “So the pandemic is not over.”
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Tips for Registering for Vaccination
To Register:
Everyone who wants to receive the COVID-19 vaccination needs to register with the Department of Health through their vaccine registration portal. You'll receive a text and/or email with a seven-digit confirmation code. Remember this code.
To Be Vaccinated:
Not all vaccination events are being conducted by the Department of Health although all registrations must still go through the Department's registration portal. As health care providers and pharmacies receive supplies of vaccine, they will conduct vaccination events, coordinating those events through the Department's portal.
Each vaccination event is given a unique EVENT CODE which is required to sign up for a vaccination. Once you have an event code, log into your registration and click on Schedule your Appointment. You will be asked to enter the event code, then click the blue Find Event button.
The Health Department will also send texts if they determine that a particular event has unused vaccine doses. This is a last minute, first-come-first-served opportunity, however. Reply to the text and you may be able to secure an immediate appointment. Be prepared to get to the site as quickly as possible.
Day of the Event:
On the day of your scheduled vaccination, you must fill out a Medical Questionnaire, which you will find when you log into your account through the vaccine registration portal. The questionnaire can only be completed on the day of, and must be completed prior to, your vaccination.
You will be given a vaccination card that lists the vaccine manufacturer and lot number of the vaccine you will receive, and your date of vaccination. It also includes the date for your second vaccination. Keep the card in a safe place.
If you have questions, email Lauren. She will answer emails as quickly as she can.
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If You're Looking for a Shot . . .
We've heard from folks who've used it that the vaccine search website, Dr. B, is an effective tool for finding available COVID-19 vaccine. Billed as "The Standby List for Leftover Vaccines," the site asks for some basic demographic information in an effort to connect people with unused doses of vaccine.
If you receive a vaccination through an event that isn't affiliated with the Department of Health, please update your vaccination profile with the date of your vaccination(s). The information is used to help determine both the number of vaccine doses still needed by the state as well as the number of people who have been vaccinated.
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We Need to Hear From You!
Although all travel is strongly discouraged under New Mexico’s Public Health orders as well as CDC guidelines, we know some volunteers will be traveling. Please let Lauren know about any plans you have that will require you to be away from Kitchen Angels. The sooner you let her know, the easier it will be to ensure we have no holes in coverage.
We will continue to make case-by-case determinations for how long volunteers need to quarantine after traveling or other activities. For New Mexico Department of Health information on the risk status of other states click here.
If you're not sure about how to answer one of the items on the assessment, check with Lauren. We'd rather you refrain from volunteering than risk infecting staff, other volunteers, or clients.
Even if you've been vaccinated, we're all still at risk of contracting the virus.
If you need to self-quarantine, please do! It's not just Kitchen Angels that may be at risk but your friends, colleagues and others.
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Before you return to Kitchen Angels,
take a moment and ask yourself . . .
- Am I able to work a full shift wearing a face mask?
- Can I hear well enough from six feet away if the other person is speaking through a face mask?
- Am I willing to work a different shift than the one I previously worked?
- Can I commit to showing up to my shift on-time and without canceling at the last minute?
- Can I adapt to a new environment and new routine?
- Can I reliably communicate with the Volunteer Coordinator?
- Do I feel safe being back in the public sphere?
- Can I maintain appropriate risk-mitigating practices when I'm not at Kitchen Angels?
If you answer "NO" to any of these questions, you're not ready to return. If you're not sure, check with Lauren.
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