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Surfing the Waves of Difficult Emotions
June 2017

Life in today's world is increasingly complex, and can at times seem overwhelming. We each have our own individual difficulties and struggles, and we are part of families and larger communities that face daunting challenges and serious problems. How can we deal with all that is going on and remain healthy, balanced people? Sometimes it all just seems like "TOO MUCH!"

Recently, I read a great article entitled, " How to Avoid Being Psychologically Destroyed by Your Newsfeed," by Ann Douglas. I was struck by that headline, because I realized that my internal reaction to the bombardment of horrible images and  stories flooding my facebook newsfeed and internet news sites every day, is not unique to me. I am not alone.

One of Ann's pieces of advice in this article is to recognize that "there is a difference between being immersed and being informed." It's hard to turn away from the onslaught of bad news and sensationalized stories, but that is exactly what we need to do at times. The goal is not to stick our heads in the sand, but to avoid traumatizing and damaging ourselves in the interest of 'being informed.' This is very important advice when the negative news outpaces the positive so completely. That isn't reality either and we are brainwashing ourselves with negativity when we focus on the bad, and eliminate the good!

Another of her tips in the article is to "allow yourself to feel all your feelings." This is where it is handy to have some type of practice to aid in processing our feelings and releasing them in a healthy, productive manner that moves us through them - instead of keeping us stuck in them or paralyzed by them.

I like to think of the emotions as waves that come... flow over us and then go. Rather than resisting and trying to stop the waves, we are better served when we learn to surf those waves, and let them pass - with awareness, detached observation and self-compassion.

Self-Compassion is a key practice to help us cope with the pain and suffering that we encounter in the course of daily life. Kristin Neff is one of our great teachers on self-compassion and kindness. We can use her teachings to build self-compassion practice into our tool-kit for daily, ongoing use.

To give you an immediate tool for your tool-kit, I'd like to share this beautiful meditation by Kristin Neff - a 3 step process for being kind to yourself:   Meditation - Be Kind to Yourself.
Johnine Byrn e was so touched by Kristin Neff's article on self-kindness, that she created a wonderful graphical illustration of the Self-Compassion process:
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Letting ourselves feel our feelings, and surfing those waves of emotion, helps us maintain our footing, even when we are on shifting sands.  Rumi offers us another image to help us in relating to the feelings and experiences that come to us in life. His words in "The Guest House" offer us valuable instruction and perspective:

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.

Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

- Jellaludin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks
So please... give yourself a vacation from the bombardment of bad news from time to time. Give yourself a break!  When you do face upsetting events and difficult emotions come to you, as they inevitably will, practice surfing them with self-compassion, and let them roll on by.

I wish you deep peace in the midst of the storm.

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Paul Epstein, ND
Mindful Healing: Mind-Body Integrative Medicine
(203) 226-3923
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Serenity is not freedom from the storm,
but peace amidst the storm...

About Dr. Paul Epstein
Paul Epstein, ND is a graduate of the National College of Natural Medicine (NCNM), specializing in Mindful Healing and Mind-Body Integrative Medicine.

He has more than 30 years experience in private practice successfully treating patients with powerful, life changing therapies.


Dr. Epstein is currently accepting new patients into his practice. He also works with healing professionals as a Professional Mentor to teach practitioners how to work in a truly integrative fashion in their own practice.

He is a pioneer and leading voice in Mind-Body Integrative Medicine lecturing internationally to both general and professional audiences.  

Dr. Epstein is an extraordinary teacher who presents compelling topics that inform, educate, motivate and inspire. His work is helping create a much needed paradigm shift in the practice of medicine and the healing arts.

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