“It’s not easy, but we’re making it work.” That’s what Ed said when his friends asked how his long-distance relationship with Donna was going, in the year before they got engaged. Once they had a foundation of trust and figured out a rhythm of communication, Ed started to wonder whether this could be sustainable in the long term. Of course, if he asked her that question, he knew what Donna’s answer would be: “absolutely not.”
Long-distance relationships aren’t bad, but people typically enter into them out of necessity rather than preference. The circumstances which keep people apart are almost always in competition with love, not a result of love. No couple dreams of growing old five hundred miles apart and dying alone. They dream of growing old together and dying side by side.
Is there any kind of love that does not inherently aim toward the goal of unity?
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