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Moving Through Denial to Embrace the Present

When our heart is injured and isolated, we can often deny our needs. Our injured wounds demand us to forget this “troublesome” part of us exists. This is how denial enters into our existence. 

Denial makes the outside world think everything is ok, while at home, things can feel that they are spinning out of control. Denial does not give the body time to think and process grief. It does not want to believe reality exists. It reasons and rationalizes scripture hoping that the same scripture will hold when it is needed. Denial keeps us from being known and seen and heard. It can wreck a company when it does not look at the data with eyes of reality. 

Continue reading about denial, how to move through it to embrace the present, and grow forward into your future in this month's blog.

Leadership + Culture: News & Expertise

Five Things Most Leaders Are In Denial About

It isn't easy to manage a team, because the relationship between managers and the people they supervise is an awkward one. It might be a friendly relationship, but it's a business relationship, not a friendship.

Competent leaders are like orchestral conductors. They keep the orchestra together, but they don't pretend they know a thing about playing the oboe or the viola.

Here are five topics most leaders, from first-line supervisors to CEOs, are in denial about.

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Self-Deception Series: Repression and Denial

Repression is often confused with denial: whereas denial relates to external stimuli, repression relates to internal, that is, mental, stimuli. Nonetheless, denial and repression often work together and may be difficult to disentangle from each other.

Unfortunately, the inability to process and come to terms with repressed material can lead to a lack of insight and understanding.

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VIDEO: Ego Defenses — Denial, Projection, Repression, Etc.

This video talks about the different ego defenses and how to differentiate between them. There are many immature ego defenses like displacement: where negative energy is passed on from one person to the next; projection: when someone accuses others of unwanted feelings that they are experiencing themselves; and denial: where we avoid a painful reality. 

There are also mature ego defenses like sublimation, altruism, suppression, and humor.

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Insights: What We are Training on in May

We believe unique problems deserve unique solutions. This month, we've prepared these "outside the box" options for our clients:

  • Accountability, Accountability, Accountability - 3 sessions for 3 different companies
  • 7 Hats of Decision Making
  • WRAP Decision Making Principles
  • How to Think and Not What to Think
  • CLAIMing Your Strengths
  • Using the TEAM Grid to Build Community at Your Workplace

Contact us today to find out how we can help you and your team with accountability, decision making, strengths, and other factors that lead to better outcomes! 

What Traci's Pondering: Denial

Tools + Information for Growth

This month, I want you to think about denial — how it enters into our existence and how it impacts our internal and external worlds and relationships.

Denial keeps us stuck because it does not want to believe reality exists; it keeps us from being known and seen and heard. It can also wreck a company when it does not look at the data with eyes of reality. 

Ask yourself: Is denial holding you back? 

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Books About Denial: How it Impacts our Lives, Leaders, and Businesses

Hiding From Love

Leadership and Self-Deception

Dare to Lead

The Leadership Gap

Denial: Why Business Leaders Fail to Look Facts in the Face - and What to Do About It

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Training Wins: Positive Feedback from Participants

One of our greatest joys is getting positive feedback from our clients and their teams on how we've helped them develop and strengthen their human capital. Check out some of the insights + comments we received in May. 

What did you learn as a result of this training? 

That accountability conversations are both important but difficult. It is important to not just identify the problem or issue, but be able to properly identify how to address it.

How will you act differently as a result of this activity? 

Constant self-reflection. Realizing that conversations could be because of my behavior, not necessarily an employee or teammate.

Reasons for mistakes/issues can be complex, and to come with a sense of curiosity to any accountability conversations.

Ask more questions, don't make assumptions, and be timely in resolving issues (within 3-4 days).

To go through CPR and Motivation vs. Ability prior to accountability conversations.

Stay more curious. Don't give out medicine before I know the illness. 

That most accountability issues are complex - the 6 piece chart helped explain.

My biggest takeaway was to remain curious above all else. It's also helpful to become more self aware so that I can take my findings and lead my employees with better capability. 

Biggest takeaways were Motivation vs. Ability and perspective on addressing errors (3x).

Will utilize the questions to guide through a conversation and better address small mistakes.

To be more introspective regarding what our team brings to the table and how to develop accountability in a positive way.

I will refer to my notes when I enter into a coaching situation regarding accountability and implement the lessons learned.

I appreciated learning the different ways to approach accountability conversations and look forward to utilizing them moving forward. 

Now that I have some tools to have these conversations, I am more willing to have them in a timely manner as opposed to putting them off for too long. 

Helpful ways to address certain conversations in a more positive way, to gain buy-in from employees so they feel empowered and engaged in their roles. 

Having a better understanding of my management style along with this information, will help me work toward improving how I respond to employee issues and work collectively as a team to resole or work though concerns. 

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