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High-performing kitchen and bath designers and sales professional appear confident. Posture, the way you walk, your body language and the spoken word all convey confidence or lack thereof. In an Inc. magazine article, Maria Takaba identified several phrases that all designers and salespeople should avoid because they “scream lack of confidence and make you appear weak.”
The first phrase is “I hate to bother you.” If you are retuning a call or having to convey information that can’t wait, the discomfort is not bothering your customer or prospect. Rather the discomfort comes from the information that you have to convey. It may be that a product delivery has been delayed or a product arrived damaged. When you say you I hate to bother you, you lose all control of the conversation. A better option is “When you have a minute, I would like to discuss something with you.”
The second phrase is “I’m sorry.” It’s not that you should avoid being accountable when mistakes are made, or your information was not accurate. How many people do you know that say “I’m sorry” repeatedly. Are they really sorry? If you have bad news to convey, a better alternative is to say, “I need to let you know of some bad news.”
Successful sales people rarely tell others that they are worried. Expressing an opinion of a potential negative outcome eliminates the ability to come up with a solution because you are focusing on the problem. Instead of saying “I’m worried that the finish won’t match,” a better alternative would be “I have some concerns that the finish won’t match. An option to avoid this problem is…”
Never use the word just. It compromises what you might be thinking or the messages that you want to convey. “I just need a minute of your time.” “I just thought about a great alternative.” “I just had an idea.”
If you preface a thought with the words, “I believe/think/feel that” you are couching your message with an unnecessary qualifier and diminishing the importance of the thought. Which statement is more powerful?
- I just feel that you should consider the steam unit for the master bath to create your own in-home spa.
- ·The steam unit for the master bath will create your own in-home spa.
Avoid asking permission to make a request by prefacing a statement with the words, “If it’s OK” or “would you mind.” When you do so, your customer may say or think, no it’s not OK or yes, I do mind. A more confident approach is to make a request by saying, “When you have a moment, let me show you this extraordinary shower system.”
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