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Relationship Goal Challenge

 February, 2013

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Quote of the month



are people 

who bring 

out the 

best in you.  

They are not perfect but 

are always 


for you. "


~Author Unknown


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Masters Degree - Applied Psychology from Seton Hall University


Post-Masters Degree-Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


Private Practice 

since 2008


NJ work experience totaling 5 years


Married 24 years


Mother of 2 teenage daughters 


Lived in Indiana, 

New Jersey and Texas


Passionate about 

what I do




I hope everyone's New Year is off to a great start.  I know mine has been with the launch of my co-authored book Power of Inspiration: Dare to be the Best YOU.  If you missed our initial launching of the book, no worries, order your copy now by clicking on the link to the left.   
Now on to this month's topic.


Many people set career or business goals for themselves this time of year and work hard to achieve them.  Some create health goals to stay in shape, lose weight or build endurance.  Have you ever thought of creating relationship goals to better connect with those around you, whether it be work associates or relatives or neighbors? 


Think about my suggestions below and if you decide to work on this during the year, make some notes for yourself on what the relationships look like today and revisit those notes over the summer and again at the end of the year to keep track of progress.


Enjoy the information below and as always, please pass it on to anyone you believe may benefit from its content.



Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT

Southlake Counseling & Neurofeedback Center

420 North Carroll Ave Suite 140

Southlake, TX 76092




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Positive Perspective.......


A relationship goal can improve your overall perspective on life by adding more value to the people you surround yourself with.  It can help you relate better with your staff if you are a small business owner or manage other people at your place of employment.  It can help you work towards getting along better with family members.  It can even help you learn to get along better with yourself and your "inner voice" if you want it to.  You get to decide what the end goal looks like.  I can help you get there by giving you some items to think about along the way.  Here goes:

  • Who in your life would you like to have a better relationship with?  Why?
  • If that relationship were to be better, what does "better" look like?  Speaking more frequently? Speaking in a way that allows you to get your point across better? Possibly being the initiator in a relationship where you always waited for the other person to talk to you first?
  • Rate your happiness with that relationship right now on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the best.  What does going up just one number look like?  What is one small step you can take to make the relationship better?  Example:  To better my relationship with my spouse, I will be sure to ask him every day what I can do to make his life go smoother today.  You would be amazed how that one small question can change a relationship. You show someone you care.   In a business environment it might look more like: To better my relationship with my employees, I will make every effort to look them in the eye instead of checking my Iphone for Facebook updates when they are talking to me to show that I have a vested interest in the content of the conversation.
  • Do the change.  Do what you have committed to do.
  • Evaluate your progress on a regular basis.  It is difficult to tell if something is working if you do not evaluate it and make adjustments along the way.
  • From there, get advice or create your own way of moving just more step in the right direction towards bettering that relationship.  The more we become aware of what is working, the more likely we are to do it.
  • You may even want to sit down at some point with the other person involved in this relationship goal.  Fill them in on what you are doing.  They may have great feedback for you or at least be touched that the relationship means that much to you.
  • Continue striving to reach the highest number possible in that relationship.
  • Last but not least, celebrate your successes and learn from the less successful attempts.


If you need help getting started on your relationship goals for the year or in just figuring out which relationships you should improve in your life, give me a call. 


Thank you for taking the time to look at this issue of relationships From The Positive Perspective.......

I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice.  I can be reached at maryellen@dabalmft.com.  I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com

I wish you well...