October 2014   

Greetings Friends♥ 

We so appreciate your thoughtful and caring responses to our last e-newsletter. Your support and ♥LOVE nurtures us and lifts us up. 

 

We are grateful for the generous offers so many made. If we haven't personally got back to you know you are valued and that we are still in the process of doing this.....your generosity and kindness makes a difference... 

 

We are delighted and feel privileged that Dr Steven Stosny will be in Australia in November and honoured he has invited us to organize and sponsor him to present his 2 most popular and transforming Workshops:

Why Women Talk and Men Walk 

Love Without Hurt Boot Camp 
 

So you know us, right!! We highly advocate EVERYONE doing regular RelationshipTUNE-UPS in much the same way you would do your 6 month dental check-up, or car service, or pregnancy and infant health check-ups, or business reviews....in fact they are an accepted part of most areas of our lives both personally and professionally....

 

Regular Relationship Check-Ups and Tune-ups have several advantages in similar ways to regular health and wellness and professional reviews. In fact at the top of the list of Marriage Tips by Dr John Gottman is SEEK HELP EARLY as the statistics show the average couple waits SIX years before seeking help for marital problems once a problem is recognized and in fact, only an astounding 1% of couples seek help!!

 

Why anyone who values having the best relationships and life would miss this Master at teaching compassion and emotional well-being is beyond us...

 

So the message is Folks - 

THIS OPPORTUNITY IS NOT TO BE MISSED!  

Your relationships and life are worth improving and deepening. Learn some new skills....some new ways to become a better person and partner......some ways to be more compassionate..........even when (or especially when) 'the other' is annoying and frustrating you...... 

 Shelton and I have trained in this work with Steven both in the U.S. and here in Australia and have been impressed by his extensive knowledge and wisdom and his teachings and it's applicability. We very highly recommend his work to you and in our client work include many of his concepts and tools.


We would appreciate you spreading the word to your friends and colleagues. For those of you attending from interstate we are happy to assist in billeting if you need it.

Change Anger & Resentment to Compassion
Techniques that WORK * Not to be missed * 
Create permanent change
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Many don't need therapy but EVERYONE needs Relationship Education to create the ♥LOVE and life they want.
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INSTITUTE FOR RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPMENT sponsors  
American EDUCATOR/AUTHOR/THERAPIST

DR STEVEN STOSNY

to present 

1-DAY WORKSHOP ~ 
WHY WOMEN TALK AND MEN WALK 
MELBOURNE: SUNDAY 9th NOV, 2014 
DETAILS & REGISTER HERE
PERTH:  SUNDAY 16th NOVEMBER, 2014 
DETAILS & REGISTER HERE
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3-DAY BOOT CAMP ~ 
'LOVE WITHOUT HURT'  
PERTH: FRIDAY 21st - SUNDAY 23rd NOVEMBER 2014 
DETAILS & REGISTER HERE
ALL ENQUIRIES: 
Call Shelton on 0477 141 069 or 
LOVE WITHOUT HURT 3-Day BOOT CAMP
 

 Change Anger and Resentment 

to Compassion

 LOVE WITHOUT HURT

  3-Day Intensive BOOT CAMP

presented by Dr. Steven Stosny


 

Stop Walking On Eggshells! 
 You Don't Have to Take It Anymore

 

One of the most frequently asked questions we get in our work is:   "How do I stop myself getting defensive and reactive when we get into a heated argument and get triggered?" 

A way we have learned that works is to remind yourself of what your Core Values are and to act from them and to use the HEALSTM process.  These are two of the many processes that are taught by Dr Steven Stosny in the LOVE WITHOUT HURT BOOT CAMP.  Having these Tools in your Communication and Relationship Toolbox is crucial.

 

The BOOT CAMP produces dramatic change in a short time for those who do the work. The tone is healing not accusatory, compassionate not blaming, valuing not devaluing, and most of all, empowering. 

 

The Focus of DAYS 1 & 2 of the BOOT CAMP: SELF-HEALING by developing CORE VALUE and SELF-COMPASSION

Focus of DAY 3 of the BOOT CAMP: RELATIONSHIP REPAIR

For a detailed schedule and full course outline see HERE

 

The BOOT CAMP is for both individuals and couples who are in emotionally hurtful and/or abusive relationships and where there is resentment, devaluing, blame or anger. It is most effective when done with your partner.  

Steven says:  "Attila the Hun would not marry Mother Teresa because they do not hang out in the same bars or their Match.com profiles do not match.  If you think that you are married to Attila you are probably not Mother Teresa."  

You will build your CORE VALUE BANK and you will learn and practice the HEALSTM process

throughout the 3 days.

 

HEALSTM is a Core Value exercise. It builds emotional power, strength, and flexibility by changing core hurts to Core Value. It reduces the power of negative emotions.
The Goal of practicing  HEALSTM is to build a skill the brain can use automatically, in a fraction of a second, to reach Core Value when aroused with anger, resentment, anxiety, obsessions or the like. 
Similar to basic training in the military, you will need to practice this for some time to develop a skill that works automatically under stress. This skill will then be part of your automatic response to stress.

 

DATE: Fri 21st - Sun 23rd November, 2014 | TIME: Daily 9am - 5pm

VENUE: St Catherine's College - 2 Park Rd, Crawley WA 6009

FEE:   

$715 EARLYBIRD per person or pay $795 after October 21st OR

$895 EARLYBIRD with partner or pay $995 after October 21st

Group rates available

FULL DETAILS & REGISTER HERE

Why Women Talk and Men Walk Workshop
 or How to Improve Your Relationship without Talking About It
         Revitalize Your Relationship

Informative. Empowering. Practical.

 
An intensive 1-day workshop including both research and tools from his book co-authored with Dr Pat Love:

How to Improve Your Relationship without Talking about It:  Finding Love Beyond Words.  


 Learn how to keep passion alive past the infatuation stage and in all stages of life.  Steven will show why "relationship talk" often does not help and the answer to marital happiness is learning to connect without words.  

This critically acclaimed work shows how biological differences in the way the sexes experience FEAR and SHAME are underneath most couples' fights and their growing apart and are ultimately responsible for poor communication, intimacy problems,  addictions, affairs, abuse, and most divorce.

For singles and couples and professionals.

FOLLOW-UP BONUS: participants will receive three recorded Webinars with Drs. Stosny and Patricia Love. 

  

MELBOURNE:

DATE: Sunday, 9 November 2014 |  TIME: daily 9:30am - 5:30pm

VENUE: 2 Minona Ave, Hawthorn VIC 3122

PERTH:  

DATE:  Sunday 16 November 2014 | TIME: daily 9:30am - 5:30pm

VENUE:  St Catherine's College - 2 Park Rd, Crawley WA 6009

FEE:   

$715 EARLYBIRD per person or pay $795 after October 21st OR

$895 EARLYBIRD with partner or pay $995 after October 21st

Group rates available

FULL DETAILS & REGISTER HERE
Sending wishes for a great day full of much ♥LOVE-ing and happiness.
Take gentle care of yourselves and hope to hear from you soon,   
Warmly, with gratitude Shelton & Susie♥
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 "Before you speak, ask yourself: is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, 
does it improve on the silence?" - Sai Baba
 "Children who don't listen have parents who don't listen" - Steven Stosny
"It is as offensive to take offence as it is to be offensive" Dalai Lama
"The world is my perception of it. I see and hear only through the filter of my story." Byron Katie.
 "I may not remember what you said, but I will remember how you made me feel."  Author unknown 
One of the most valuable things we can do to heal one another is listen to each other's stories. Rebecca Falls