Dealing With Past
Failures
by Dr. Gary
Chapman
If
you described the quality of your marriage as one of the four
seasons, which season would you choose? A Winter marriage is cold
and harsh. A Spring marriage is exciting and  tender. A Summer marriage is happy and
content, A Fall marriage is characterized by uncertainty. Things
are changing and we don't know if it's good or
bad.
If you would like to spend more time in Spring and Summer I
hope you will join me this week as I explain an important strategy
to make that happen.
If you are in a Winter marriage then things have not gone
well. You have a history of unresolved conflicts. Through the years
you have grown further apart and likely have disappointment and
resentment. If you want to return to Spring you must take the time
to deal with past failures.
You cannot simply wake up one day and act as though things are
fine. The wall that has been created between you must be torn down.
It begins by acknowledging that the wall exists.
Tomorrow, I'll give you the first step in "wall demolition."
You can have a growing marriage if you are willing to deal with
past failures.
Article written by Dr. Gary Chapman. Based
on the book, The Four Seasons of
Marriage by Dr. Gary Chapman.
Published by Tyndale House Publishing, copyright 2005.
For a complete listing of Dr. Chapman's books and
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Marriage is filled with
frustrated reactions to the growing list of your spouse's strange,
nettlesome behaviors. How could you have married someone
who turned out to be such a pest and a nuisance? 
This week, a brief catalog of personality and lifestyle
differences. I think you'll recognize yourself in some of
these.
Hopefully, you'll laugh a bit at your differences. But if
these differences are drawing you apart...consider going through
The Total Marriage Makeover.
Thermostat Wars
One spouse is always hot. One is always cold. Complaining
about the temperature and sneaking to the thermostat becomes
commonplace.
Night Owl and Morning
Glory
Morning Glory wakes up at 5:00am without an alarm but is
brain-dead by 9:00pm. Night Owl comes alive at 9:00pm and is ready
to party but has to be hit with a cattle prod to get up in the
morning.
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