C'mon let's be honest here – do you take umbrage? Are you a serious sulker, a wild wound-licker or a door-slammer and throw-away-the-key-er?

I'm no slouch when it comes to the flounce, a twist on the heel and nose in the air sharp exit in a flurry of talc and sequins; it feels so good at the time. 

High Dudgeon may sound like a hamlet in the Cotswolds along with Low Blows and Simmering Grudge but these are far from cosy places to live. 

Those who say life is black and white have conveniently failed to see the Jackson Pollock myriad of messy colours and abstract mayhem that swirls in between and life is rarely as simple as I'm Right/You're Wrong.

In the heat of the moment tempers flare and feelings get trampled and a whiplash response of “enough already” and a nevermore tantrum feels infinitely satisfying. 

Time and perspective shape it into a different scenario. Regret and remorse kick in and you realise you bought a one-way ticket to the dog house.

Park The Pride

But there really is a way back. Whereas some people may wish to burn bridges out of a sense of saving face and to inhabit the lonely island of “being right” – the mindfully muscular heroes are the olive-branchers. These are those that see that bridges can be built, that life's too short and healing can be done and for the sake of the sore heart and soul one should at least have a go.

The Hero Appeaser

When the dust settles the peace maker will see that there is more at stake than pride and righteousness. There is always a way forward. Yes things may never be the same again. Maybe they will be more honest and respectful or a kind and gentle parting of the ways draws a line under a friendship or broken relationship.

It doesn't always have to be an acrimonious finale of verbal fisticuffs and vitriol. We are often disappointed. We often disappoint. And it is in this humanity that you can find compassion.

Very little is personal just hurt people hurting people and it's those with the wisdom and soul the size of Pacific ocean that dare to open heart and hand for understanding even if it may be met with a thorn or slap.

Fancy becoming a coach and helping others?

It’s Week 5 tomorrow of the Spring term at Pure Coaching Academy and the students are already changing their own lives and gaining clarity about their future as a coach.

Tomorrow we cover Money – money mindset, charging what you are worth, getting rid of limiting beliefs around money and in the afternoon we cover the Spirituality module.