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A good friend ought to tell you, but probably never will, that your words can cast a cloud even when the sun in splitting the flagstones and when some people see smiles others can’t see for the dust they are creating.
Our words show the world how we show up and if yours are moans, groans and gripes it may be time to notice that when you part the crowds it may not be because of your sartorial savour faire.
When people ask, “how are you?” do you regularly reply any of the following:
“Not great, I cannot lie”
“Same old, same old”
“Been better”
“Don’t ask”
“Pass”
If you have any of these phrases on autoresponder then think about not only the messages you are putting out to the world but the ones you are telling yourself. We become our beliefs and our habits so be sure to choose good ones. Your words can define you.
But who wants to be Brand Bleak or a Misery Maven?
Coach and influencer Jordan Graham, who recently guested on my podcast Show Up and Shine, says “what noises are you adding to life? What sounds are you making in the world?” and this beautifully sums up how psychic sinewaves effect our souls.
I have met folk at business networking events and when I ask how it’s all going reply, “Business is dead. Dreadful. Nothing coming in. Nothing’s working” and immediately it sets up a polluted pall about what they do with an “Avoid! Avoid” claxon warning.
Being negative is so easy. When I ask my clients “what you do want?” they say, “I can tell you what I don’t want” and I allow a one-time download list of things they wish to avoid. It’s an easy and gleeful process crossing off known villains and ills. ✔ ☠
The tough call is to state what you do love, what you are naturally drawn to, what lights you up, makes your heart sing and what would make you hit the ground running toward it in the morning.
Misery loves company so unless you are in the Leonard Cohen fan club (seriously, though, saw Lucky Len three times in concert and I am a fan girl) it soon becomes a gloom with a view to melancholia.
Notice your messages you are putting out there. Of course, there is a time and a place for sadness, disappointment, feeling below par and for life’s inevitable struggles but don’t let your niggles define you.
Try on these power statements:
“I am open to new directions”
“I am at a crossroads and ready for real change”
“I’ve learned a lot and discovering new things all the time”
“I am learning to appreciate…”
“I am grateful for …”
“I am moving on but gently taking my time”
“I really love that I don’t have all the answers right now”
“I am letting grace have the last word”
As a starting point for de-cluttering the negative throw out these 5 usual suspects - “I don’t know”, “I should”, “I will try”, “Maybe” and “But” – they are so easily recycled.
Words have power and we can unknowingly put a hex on ourselves or cast a spell of goodwill, joy and possibility. The ancient Persian word Abracadabra means “so I speak, so I create”.
What are you creating? What are you spelling out?
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