ADHD: Are Your Reminders Annoying? |
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If you have ADHD, or you live with someone who does, your lifestyles are probably quite different. One of you has a style that actually looks like clutter, and the other, having everything in its place or out of sight, just can't feel at home with the partner's visual style.
Those with ADHD need to focus on the point of performance, so to them, leaving a screwdriver on the counter, for example, is a good reminder for a task that needs to be done or stacks of mail to be handled. To the non-ADHD partner, however, it's just clutter. When the "reminders" get to be too much, they become a source of conflict in the relationship.
While you can't change another person, you can negotiate for change. It's important to remember that you both have legitimate needs, but you need to co-design an environment for both your styles to co-exist. If you can relate to this scenario, please read my blogpost, "Are Your Reminders Annoying?" www.digcoaching.com/are-your-reminders-annoying/
Warmly,
Jeff Copper
ADHD and Attention Coach
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ADHD and addictive behavior are highly correlated. Some ADHD professionals automatically screen for addictions when diagnosing ADHD. They also screen for ADHD when diagnosed with an addiction. In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, ADHD coach Jeff Copper talks with parent coach Elaine Taylor-Klaus (www.impactparents.com) about failing to treat both conditions or just treating one in isolation. If you have ADHD or an addiction, this is a show you won't want to miss.
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Experts agree meditation is helpful for those with ADHD, so why aren't we doing it? In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, ADHD coach Jeff Copper talks with Adam Coutts (www.intromeditation.com), an ADDer who's been meditating for more than 30 years. They talk about Adam's philosophy and what he does. Jeff shares ideas about what it's like to launch yourself into meditation in a way that makes sense so that you'll actually do it. If you get that this works but haven't been able to do it, this is a show you don't want to miss.
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Have you recently been diagnosed with ADHD? Now that you've read all the books, did you learn it and now you think you're an expert? In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, ADHD coach Jeff Copper interviews ADHD coach and ADDiva Linda Roggli (www.addiva.net). They share their experiences over the years coaching those with ADHD and others they've run into who are newly diagnosed. If you were just diagnosed, or know somebody who was, this is a show you won't want to miss.
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What's the difference between knowing a lot about ADHD and owning it? It sounds so simple, but it's transformational. In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, ADHD coach Jeff Copper interviews ADHD coach Susan McGinnis (www.adhdimpactcoaching.com) around her lived experience. Susan explains her responses to ADHD throughout her life and the experience that helps her identify her ADHD and own it. If you struggle with ADHD, don't miss this show.
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Let's face it. ADHD is no picnic for those with ADHD and those who are neurotypical. But even as challenging as it is, there are many neurotypicals who are doing the best they can to help those with ADHD in their struggle. Most of them have good intentions although their execution is not always the best. In this episode of Attention Talk Radio, ADHD coach Jeff Copper talks with Dr. Ari Tuckman (www.adultadhdbook.com) around the nature of ADHD challenges, how they manifest in the real world, and the need for everyone to work together with empathy and gratitude to benefit everyone. If you've got ADHD, this is a show that can help your attitude.
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ADHD: Seeing Versus Observing
Got ADHD? Tips, tricks, and strategies not working for you? Are the solutions obvious but you still struggle? Maybe it's time to refine your skills at self-observation. In this video, ADHD coach Jeff Copper discusses the difference between seeing things and making observations. He gives illustrated examples of how we look at a situation and many times jump to a conclusion, but after observation, we realize we've missed something completely obvious. If you're going to manage ADHD, you need to manage the root cause to understand what's going on. If this speaks to you, watch the video for insights. https://youtu.be/walIIXXnFBU
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ADHD: Prioritization Insights
Got ADHD? Struggle with prioritization? Do you find yourself doing unimportant tasks when you should be doing important ones? Ever wonder why that is? In this video, ADHD coach Jeff Copper shares his insight on the legitimate reason you end up doing seemingly unimportant things in the face of those that need to get done. He helps identify the root cause so you can begin to problem-solve. If prioritization is a challenge for you, this is a video you won't want to miss. https://youtu.be/8jTzcpYzyAw
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Is It Your ADHD or Sometimes Just Life?
Many with ADHD struggle in life. Is it always your ADHD, or is it just life? In this episode, ADHD coach Jeff Copper shares a lived experience on something he wanted to do that was put off for a period of time. In the video, he explains why he put it off for legitimate reasons, the frustration, and how it seems like it’s ADHD but it's just life. If you've got ADHD and want to realize that you're not always wrong, this is the video for you. https://youtu.be/_KH5bOKDc8k
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ADHD and Planning: Realizing How Difficult It Is
Got ADHD? Do you look at it as a deficit of attention or executive functioning impairment? In the context of planning, have you ever broken down planning to understand its challenges? In this video, ADHD coach Jeff Copper talks about what's required in planning and uses the GPS as a metaphor to map planning and the planning process. Its purpose is to help you understand the complexities of thinking towards a goal in your head as a means to motivate you to think externally. If you're struggling with ADHD and want to know why certain things work or don’t work, this is a video you don't want to miss. https://youtu.be/GbA8K-qi4yU
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ADHD: Putting Executive Functions into Context
Got ADHD? Is it a deficit of attention? In this video, ADHD coach Jeff Copper shares Dr. Russell Barkley's executive functioning construct and reorders them in a context to help you understand ADHD, its complexity, and what's going on. If you're struggling to manage your ADHD, this is a video you don't want to miss. https://youtu.be/hIhLjsowVtw
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