March 13, 2024

THE SECOND WIND SNIPPET

Snippets of information and motivation

to inspire you

to make the rest of your life

the best of your life

Do You Allow Others to Make You Feel Inferior?

That's a trick question, because NO ONE can make you feel inferior without your permission.

In my counseling and coaching practice, I use an REBT framework. REBT stands for Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy.

The premise of REBT is that you disturb yourself.

It's not what happened to you that causes you to feel inferior, but it's your evaluation of what happened to you that disturbs you.

Your evaluation of the situation is what causes you to feel bad.

So, if you feel inferior after speaking with someone, it's not the other person's that is causing you to feel that way, the issue lies within you and your thinking.

Your job is to become more confident within yourself so that no matter what someone says about you, you know who YOU are.

Their opinion of you does not change your opinion of yourself. Of course, that is easier said than done.

Here are 3 Tips to help you become more confident:

• Don't compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own unique journey and timeline. Focus on your own progress and growth. You may have to put imaginary blinders on to keep focused on what YOU need to do. Manage your social media intake and don't compare yourself with others in your feed - that can have a negative effect on your confidence. Try to be happy for them and create an Abundance Mindset - there is enough for everyone. Minimize comparing yourself and remind yourself that you are a unique, wonderful person.

• Embrace failure as a learning opportunity. Don't let setbacks define you; instead, use them as a chance to grow and improve. Boy, there's a lot that can be said for making failure a chance to grow. A recent saying I heard says "Failure is the mother of success." Failure teaches you what NOT to do. Try not to take your mistakes and failures personally. Check out this article on Indeed that gives you more tips on how to handle failure. Click here.

• Identify your strengths and celebrate them. Focus on what you're good at and take pride in your abilities. It's better to strengthen your strengths than to try to strengthen your weaknesses. Focus on what you are good at!

This week's Second Wind podcast will dive more deeply into this topic. I'll send you the recording next week.

Or

Watch it live. I'll announce the day/ time on my social media channels - Facebook, Linked In, Tick Tock and Instagram.

Warmly,

Dacia